Back story so you understand where me and DH are coming from. my best friend married one of DH's friends, 3 DC seemed happy (both from what she was telling me and him telling DH) about 2 years ago Best Friend changed started going on mad nights out with a new circle of friends ( invited me to one, I met them at 8pm they had been on the vodka since 5pm I bailed at 11.30pm and got told next day she rolled in at 5am. Never went again made excuses.
Six months later she is in tears cannot take the emotional abuse any longer i.e he has no interest in her does not care, DH getting told he cannot understand why she is acting like a teenager (obviously 2 sides to a relationship so never made any judgement) October 2019 rings me in tears she has to leave needs to rent somewhere but needs to borrow money to do so (impossible situation but she is my best friend so help out) then find out January 2020 she has been having an affair and moved a new bloke in ( pretty pissed off at this point)
Their DC met him and hate him (tbf I did not take to him) during this time DH has been propping up his mate who is in bits, covid hits, the kids are obviously confused to say the least as she is not seeing them, hear nothing from her for a few months (no reply to my texts etc) contacted me when my mum died December to arrange to come to funeral (if you have seen my previous post snow wrecked that so did not see her)
Contacted me end of January to say she has made a massive mistake (new partner lost his job November, kids are cold with her and she just wants her old life back and intends to get it back.
Her H started divorce proceedings a week or two before this (so think she thought he would always be there as a back up, in case she changed her mind.
He has massively moved one met someone new (albeit taking it slow, I have only met her over zoom once but the way DH and him talk he is really happy)
Best friend has decided she is having him back to the point whereby she is sitting outside his house upsetting the kids, has vandalised his new GF car, asking us to speak to him, because she wants her old life back, actually ranted on the phone sick of having no money, want my nice house back and could have a new car cos I am not used to driving this old thing (its a 5-6 year old car )
Stuck with her through thick and thin but the fact (she still owes me for the move) coupled with her total its all about me attitude, really do not see a way back for us as friends. Since end of January I had a weekly message from her, February every few days, its now daily, I cannot cope lost my mum dealing with that her estate an Uncle's POA where his boys are abusing it, still trying run our business and look after our family, feeling like enough is enough, and think we need to look after her DH, their kids and are own family as much as we can