Both DM and I have big birthdays next year (both end in 0s) they’re about 4 months apart in date.
I’ve already decided what I want to celebrate mine, a small tea party with my female family members and my best friend plus my DD. Then I’ll probably be taken out for a meal by colleagues as they do for all big birthdays.
That’s fine by me, small affair and move on. I’m not a massive drinker of alcohol and don’t like to be fussed over – in any other year I’d just accept a card and acknowledgements but no party, I’ve not had a party since I was in my teens.
My mum wants a big party, over 100 people (if it’s allowed by then), games, balloons, adult bouncy castles. The works. That’s up to her, and very her in that sense. I’ve said I’ll attend but don’t want to make it a joint celebration, I’d rather celebrate quietly in my own way. I hate being fussed over like that, my mum loves it. We’re just different people and want to celebrate our own ways.
My mums not happy though as she has apparently imagined us celebrating these birthdays together since I was small.
For context: I am paying for my own tea party. Colleagues will all chip in for my meal but buy their own. Mum will pay for her own party too.
AIBU? Or do I just need to suck it up for the sake of one year?
Vote:
YANBU - Celebrate your own way
YABU - Suck it up and make mums party a joint one