How would you deal with someone like this?

[Goodytoshoes]

This is going to sound like a petty problem, but trust me when I say it's infuriating.

There's a member of DPs family who we see a lot of. They're close to DC which is wonderful and definitely important.

This person has a terrible habit of talking over others when they speak, they almost act like nobody was talking in the first place, it's quite bizarre. Someone will be in the middle of a sentence and will be explaining something or telling us an anecdote, only to be spoken over halfway through, a lot of the time with something completely unrelated to the discussion.

This isn't something that happens every-so-often, it's very much a frequent thing and I just find it so rude and difficult to deal with.

How would you deal with this?

I always deal with this by falling instantly and completely silent

I do the same as @HideousKinky

My son (teenager) does this. I just tell him that so and so was talking and to wait until they are done.

I would just stare at them and say "sorry, I/so and so was just midway through a sentence...?"

Just say ‘Oi, I was talking, let me finish’.

It doesn’t have to be tense, and it teaches DC that you shouldn’t let people talk over you.

If it was a recurring thing l would just talk louder. I can be quite loud when l want. Is it an impulse control problem like they are desperate to speak or more what they are saying is more interesting in their opinion?

I know someone who does it. It’s so weird and rude it usually renders me speechless.

Let me just finish is a good one, or if it’s not you they’ve interrupted ‘hold on a minute, I’d like to hear this’.

I had this with a colleague - I tried falling silent which had no effect, so eventually I just started carrying on talking whenever he interrupted me. It was really difficult the first few times, us both talking at each other, but it eventually worked and he stopped!

I would want to say "I am sorry that the middle of my story got in the way of the beginning of yours", but in all likeliness, I go quiet and think no one was listening to me anyway. My dad is an interrupter but he seems to save up what he wants to say until you are on the phone to someone else. So fucking rude.

@EL8888

If it was a recurring thing l would just talk louder. I can be quite loud when l want. Is it an impulse control problem like they are desperate to speak or more what they are saying is more interesting in their opinion?

Oh god I'm going to sound so bitter here, please forgive me.

Basically, this person is a complete know-it-all, so sometimes they just need to jump in to say something that sounds smart lol other times I can tell that they're not listening when people are speaking (not sure why, maybe lack of interest of attention span!), so they start talking instead.

I've started to deal with it by continuing to speak and sometimes it works, other times they'll just keep talking regardless.

Or, you could just raise a hand to them. I was in group therapy with a lady who would constantly trying to talk over other people. The therapist would just raise her hand. Only worked for a few seconds though.

@HideousKinky

I always deal with this by falling instantly and completely silent

I have tried this, and sometimes this person will say "OK, what were you saying" and I'm a bit p*ssed of so don't necessarily want to start speaking again, but I feel like they'll think I'm sulking if I don't continue speaking. In fairness, probably am sulking 😂

My cousin does this. It's so strange she clearly everyone else very boring and just turns the conversation back to her!

Do they have hearing issues?

I have a friend who interrupts all the time which I found really frustrating. In the end I decided I would just keep talking and get louder if necessary. It felt very awkward at first but I kept at it and it has worked a treat. If someone else is interupted I say, sorry 'speaker' what were you saying? Good luck/report back

Known a few people like this.
They are annoying and rude.

@FoggyDay58

Do they have hearing issues?

Not at all, I would understand their behaviour if they did, but it's not the case.

If it is you talking and being interrupted, you could try holding up your hand to them and saying bluntly "hey hang on a moment, I'm talking"

or yes just keep talking, keep your eyes on the person you are talking to and just keep going!

If it's someone else talking and being interrupted, it is slightly easier because you can tell yourself you are being polite to that person - hold your hand up again and say, hang on a minute Bob, Beryl is telling me something.

Whatever you do, do something. See it as a new hobby and a good challenge to the other person's rudeness .

I'm with @HideousKinky - fall completely silent, then when they have finished, go directly back to finishing your sentence / conversation. Then say 'now what were you saying again?' Keep doing that each and every time.

Dd does this all the time. She has symptoms of Aspergers and just doesn’t understand social cues. She also has trouble knowing when to stop talking generally.

My mother does this. I hate it so much. It just makes me feel like she has such a total disinterest in what I’m saying and who I am.

I don’t really have a solution because my mother gets really defensive and is impossible to talk to about anything that might be perceived as criticism. I just take a deep breath and remind myself that I’m a much politer person than her to soothe myself

Have you tried asking them why they have interrupted? I woudl probably try to name the issue.

I also maybe would think about cutting back on seeing them as it sounds really annoying!

Ahh I've got one of these. He is Mr Elevenerife extraordinaire -or knows someone random who has done it bigger/better/faster etc than you have therefore, you must listen to his superior knowledge on the subject you're talking about.
It doesn't help that my dmum has dementia so it takes a lot for her to construct what she's going to say then he fucking interrupts her and she loses her thread.
It's infuriating!

I am in a group with a woman who does this, and worse, if you challenge her, tells you she cant help it because if she doesnt say what just came into her head she will forget it. So, she clearly does not give a crap what anyone else is saying and doesnt care if you are annoyed. I have challenged her, but most people dont and I find I get really annoyed at them too, actually.