Fortune tellers

[Worrier2021]

I went to see a fortune teller today who is highly recommended by a lot of people. I went along with my mother in law and brother in laws girlfriend. They both got really positive things said to them nothing really major that rung true bells except for his mother in law was told that “someone will return to your life with the Letter N from the past “ anyway she’s been holiding out for someone with the letter N for all her life and so is now sure this is true as she’s always believed they would be back together. Brother in laws girlfriend went in told she would open her business (she’s been planning) be pregnant by August (she’s massively trying) and that her and partner would be together always married a second child the lot. Then there’s me who got told me and my boyfriend had no future together, basically told me that my boyfriend is no good and that it won’t last as I will get fed up and leave. I was SO upset by it all... like it’s broken me all night whilst they are so happy with theirs but then I remembered bits she said that were not true such as someone with the Letter S (no one I know) and boyfriend has light blonde hair (it’s brown) also said that I’m planning on having a baby to keep my partner (I’m not and I don’t want children for at least 3 more years) but yet I’m still convinced as there was some truth in there readings maybe mine was too? I don’t know I’ve been so upset. Am I being ridiculous? Just to add not UK based currently so permitted to have gathering outside where the reading took place.

I was offered a job as a fortune teller once, but I couldn't see any future in it.

@ImpatiensI

I was offered a job as a fortune teller once, but I couldn't see any future in it.

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OP if I were you, I'd honestly not give it another thought.

You do know it's all utter rubbish?

How did your MIL feel when you told her the fortune teller said her son was no good and the relationship was wrong? Did she agree with this assessment of his character?

I hope you didn’t spend any money on this after throwing emotional energy down the toilet as well

Fortune tellers are con artist scum. Forget about it and don't be such a mug in the future.

They’re grifters, it’s not real. Don’t let it get you down.
Fortune tellers know nothing about your relationship and probably gave you a shitty outcome on purpose so that you’d come back again to see if it had changed or was a mistake and continuing a nice cash flow their pocket.

The fortune teller was very adamant that my partner was no good she used a word that I can’t really translate in to English but just means the equivalent of head in English. Which he is absolutely not even if we did split up this isn’t a word I’d ever use to describe him. He can be immature and a little thoughtless but that’s it. Then when I pushed on this she said he’s not a bad person but we just don’t have a future and she’s sorry to have to say it. MIL basically said she feels that maybe she mixed up the energy and It’s my partners girlfriend who is trying to have a baby to make him stay (he doesn’t really want a child yet but she’s very open about the fact that she’s trying anyway As she has thyroid problems and says it may take years) And the anger stuff does ring true for his brother more than my DP. I don’t know my DP and I have been arguing a lot recently but over nothing major I’d say. Just general lockdown and work worries (we rely heavily on tourism) and I Don’t know this was suppose to be something that picked me up today and instead made me feel like absolute rubbish and resulted in me drinking 3 glasses of wine and crying for most the evening.

If your MIL is suggesting the woman mixed up the energy it doesn't suggest that this woman got any of her stab in the dark, blind guesses correct.

Honestly. Grow up and let it go. You were conned out of a bit of cash. Don't do it again.

Your partners girlfriend?

Anyway, ignore what the con artist says.

I would take it as a lesson to avoid anything like a fortune teller in future as you clearly put a huge emotional stake it these readings and it causes you to spiral. But looking forward - you can sit and dwell on something vague and abstract a complete stranger told you and let it impact your life, or you can put it behind you and remind yourself that you know your partner better than anyone else and only you know if you’re likely to go the distance together.

The fact is none of us know if our relationships will collapse in future - even the most secure couples may hit issues they can’t get through one day, but it’s out of all of our hands so there’s no point dwelling on ifs or maybes and enjoying our lives as much as possible.

Sorry I meant partners brothers girlfriend

Thank you everyone. I’m just a little worried as so many people have been to this lady and said how she knows things that’s not possible To know and how she was right about everything and I don’t know it just got me really upset.

@Sparklesocks thank you. I needed to hear some of that. What upset me more is my boyfriend when I mentioned this Said it was a load of rubbish what she said, but that of course he can’t say for sure if we’ll still be together in ten years time as no one knows what’s going to happen but that he hopes to be and whilst he’s never been the romantic type that kinda upset me too. I don’t know if I was being a little sensitive then. I suppose his statement is factually correct and then he proceeded to tell me how I should never go to have readings like this again and there ridiculously made up.

Ffs it’s all a load of old fanny.

Op, don’t believe this. I got told by a fortune teller that I would marry “a foreign man” and would have very dark haired twins. One twin would have severe asthma and have poor health, which would result in a close relationship with my mother.
Well. My mother died. She didn’t forecast that. No twins or “foreign man”; just one blonde haired child, without asthma.

Everyone swore by this fortune teller and I swore I would never waste the money again! Although for several years I believed it, until the truth finally unravelled that life was panning out a different way.

They actually scare me....taking money and somehow conning you into thinking they’re telling you truths. It’s actually quite alarming.

Your boyfriend is absolutely correct. He can’t tell for sure what will happen in ten long years.

Maybe now is a good time to think hard about your relationship, if you’ve been so badly unsettled by this. Make sure it’s what you really want but only be influenced by your head and heart. Not that of a trickster. None of us know what’s around the corner, so just live to the best of your ability and be comfortable with the decisions you make.

Please don’t worry any more. It’s nonsense.

Why do we never hear the news "Fortune teller wins the lottery"
Oh yeah that's right. Its all bullshit.

Echoing others, it's all nonsense. Why do you never see the headline "Psychic wins Lotto again"? Because there's no such thing as being able to tell the future. Don't give this another thought.

Although there is definitely such a thing as coincidence!

There are two types of fortune tellers, one that genuinely thinks they have some psychic ability and don't realise they're reading you and the other (99%) who know it's bullshit and are knowingly, deliberately scamming you. Neither of them can see into the future because no one can.

Look into cold reading techniques and confirmation bias. With someone who "believes" already they have a cooperative participant in yourself.

It really is interesting how they do it, it is a skill and some people are incredibly good at it, but it's a scam artist skill.

@KrisAkabusi

Although there is definitely such a thing as coincidence!

I see coincidence as something we attribute meaning to in a world of random acts and happenings. Same as karma; karna doesn't 'exist' in any sense but it's a notion that offers us comfort and we attribute it if we 'see' it.

So many awful people have good things happen to them, and so many amazing people have awful things happen to them. There's sadly no wider balance that fate, karma or life takes care of, it's all just 'life'.

Don’t be silly, OP. I once, at a very low point in my 20s — on crutches after an accident, surgery and a long recovery, unemployed and living temporarily with my parents as I physically couldn’t get into my flat, no clear future — saw a fortune teller, also highly recommended.

I specifically asked her if I was going to study any more, or go abroad, and she said definitely not to both — that part of my life was over. I was going to stay in my home town, marry my boyfriend, open a little business with him, and have two daughters.

That was more than 25 years ago. Within a few months of my ‘fortune’, I’d won a prestigious scholarship for a postgrad degree overseas, moved abroad, did two further degrees, lived in various different countries for more than 20 years and did not return to my home country, worked in a professional role — no business. Only 15 years later did I marry, and have a child — one son.

So basically everything the ‘highly recommended’ fortune teller told me was incorrect, and I’m embarrassed I even felt low enough to pay money for this nonsense.

You've got to ask if she's so good why doesn't she know the winner of the 4.30 at Kempton?
Seriously, if she is any good why does she have to have visitors in the middle of a pandemic.

The same happened to a good friend. 30 years later they are still together, lovely grown up son and very happy

Seriously, if she is any good why does she have to have visitors in the middle of a pandemic.

OP very clearly said not UK.

Yes, you are being ridiculous. I mean this kindly, but you are. There is no truth in fortune telling. They’re just charlatans who make things up for money. Sometimes one of their vague statements - like ‘someone with a letter N’ are close enough to the truth that the recipient of a reading will believe it is accurate, but it’s never more than a coincidence.

If your relationship is happy you would be mad beyond belief to question it on the basis of lies told to you by someone exploiting your credulity for financial gain.