Teenage depression

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I have a 15 year old daughter who has been struggling with her mental health for 2 years. It has spiralled into a deep depression, self harm anorexia and threats of suicide. Although we have been referred to the relevant services she refuses to engage or except that there is even a problem. I am watching my daughter waste away and every day I live in fear she is going to kill herself. I don't feel like the mental health teams are doing anything its like their just waiting for her to die. I'm a single parent with a full time job and a younger child who is also working through an extremely difficult time and I feel like I'm at breaking point. I need to find help for my daughter even though she doesn't want it before it's to late, but I don't know where else to turn.

Oh you poor thing, this sounds awful, it is so hard when they won’t engage with help but things keep getting worse. Could you go see the GP about her and see what they suggest, and also ask about help for yourself? I don’t suggest medication lightly but could this maybe be a case where it is helpful, but would she take it?

I fear we are starting down a similar journey but DD has at least spoken to someone from Camhs, every day I feel governed by her mood, will she be screaming in her room? Am also seeking help for myself so I have the strength to keep supporting her, a lot of her anger and hatred is directed at me so it is very hard, I don’t know how we got to this, we were so close, a friend said today ‘but she is ill’ and it was hard to hear that but I suppose it is true.