Should I ask to bring a friend

[Murtaghjames]

Sil just got married but due to Covid didn't have a hens or a big wedding. She is planning on doing the hens and wedding next year or when permits. She will having a hens abroad for 3 to 4 nights. Its a big hens probably about 30 guests. I don't know them well enough to share a room. I was going to ask could I bring my friend or sister. Is that a bit cheeky?

I think it's fine, there's 30 people going not 3! Obviously be clear that you won't be offended if she says no but I doubt she will

It's cheeky, but not as cheeky as having a hen do after the wedding. I'd just be happy to have saved some money.

Wonder how many hours in a day you need to dedicate to having 30 close friends?
Shy bairns get nowt op.... Just ask sil.

Sil comes from a large family, 5 sisters, niece and lots of aunts and cousins as well as a large circle of friends. Nothing has been set in stone yet but she definately will go abroad and everybody is on board to go. I think after all the lockdowns they are dying to let their hair down.

I think it's cheeky to ask.
I'd also decline if I was the +1 you invited due to feeling uncomfortable tagging along on someone's hen.

I think it is cheeky to ask, no matter how many people are going, I think it is up to the bride to select who they are and I expect she would want to know everyone on her hen night.

That said, I think it is really weird to have a hen do a year after a wedding, covid or no covid, I would just accept that the time for a hen do has gone.

I think that's okay, just ask. No harm in asking.

I think that given the numbers it's fine to ask. Less so if it was an intimate gathering of three or something.

Just rang sil. She said "of course I can bring somebody, no problem at all and a couple of her sisters are bringing a friend".She actually said I was going to ask you if you wanted to bring somebody. Phew

My god she's your SIL. Yes it's fine!

I was a plus one a couple of times on hens when i was younger. Make sure your sister or pal will be ok to pay all that to go on a hen and do what the bride wants to do... But i think totally fine to ask to take someone. Its a big hen not just a few best friends.

I don't think it's cheeky. If it was a group of 5 or 6 then it would be different but 30 girls is a massive group and I'm sure they won't mind someone else joining.
If I was in the bride's shoes I would appreciate that you were honest and wanted to bring someone. I had a girl at my hen I didn't really know. It was lovely and we are on great terms to this day.