To not like ds being referred to like this?

[justastar]

Have brother in support bubble as he lives alone: we visit him and sometimes he comes to us. We have a 2 month old ds.

Brother refers to ds crying as ‘skirling’ (sp?) he gets annoyed when I pick him up and says ‘babies skrike, it’s what they do.’

Refers to him having a ‘shit’ if there’s a dirty nappy.

I’m being stupid but I hate it: aibu?

You're being unreasonable for thinking this is an issue.

I'm from Aberdeen, and skirling is a standard word for loud crying here

That was my thought (not to be confused with Skirlie - yum!)

Skrekin sounds similar to the doric "screchin" too. Not really offensive IMO.

Having a shit would bother me though. There are nicer ways of saying that.

@EggscellentEggplant

People telling me to leave my crying baby piss me right off. Yes that may have been the advice 30 years ago but now studies show its much better to respond to baby when they need it, babies don't have the ability to try to manipulate you by fake crying. I have had to explain this to FIL a few times

It wasn't even the official advice 40 years ago! I never left mine crying although some people did.

It wasn't even the official advice 40 years ago

I don't think doing it either way is ever official advice. It is a matter of personal preference which reflects your own parenting style.

Cut back on the visits.

You're under no obligation to go.

Time when babies are tiny goes fast and is precious. Don't put someone else first when you're in that time period. Ever. Some of the best advice I got!

The slightly coarse language is one thing. The 'getting annoyed' when you pick up your own baby is STRIKE - OUT. Dealbreaker, instantly. No-one gets to tell you how to parent and if they don't like how you relate to your baby , they know where the door is.

Dial it back - especially him coming over. And next time he comments on the crying, you rip him a new one.

'Yep, babies cry. And in this house, when they do, good mums pick them up. This is my house, my baby, my rules. You want to pick fault or comment - there's the door, and time to find a new bubble. Are we clear?'

Shit would bother me too. A friend once referred to her baby having 'shit himself' so she was changing his nappy. Just sounds 'wrong'
So many other ways to say it
I'm in Yorkshire and people often say babies a 'squarking' it doesn't bother me too much but I don't use it.
It sounds like he's just not used to babies, I'd just tell him it doesn't sound like a nice way to refer to his DN

Just ask him not to swear in front of the baby. They pick up language very easily and before you know it your DC will be talking and copying the words they hear.
If he refuses then ditch him from your bubble. He might think nothing of using the word shit but I can assure you this would not be tolerated when DC starts nursery or school

So you would go to your doctor and say ‘my child is struggling to shit’?

This made me laugh OP.

I totally get what you mean btw.

the kids 2 months old....he won't know the difference