To ask if you ‘like’ people’s posts on FB/Insta if they don’t ever ‘like’ yours?

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I know most of the replies will be ‘how old are you, 12?! Why do you care?’ etc but I’m wondering if other people feel similar?

As an example, SIL never likes/ comments/ responds to anything I post on FB. I don’t post that much, once every few weeks and (in normal times anyway) it’s mostly photos of days/ nights out with friends/ pictures of my dogs/ scenic walks etc. Occasionally it might be the odd status but that’s rare.

SIL posts most days, mostly pictures of my niece and nephew or something related to my niece and nephew like how their parents evening went etc. I usually like her posts as I love my niece and nephew so why not?

My mum made a comment a couple of weeks ago that she’s noticed SIL never ‘likes’ anything I put on FB. I joked that she’s probably unfollowed me (it’s probably true but why I don’t know as I post nothing offensive) my mum said she thought it was quite bad as she likes all our other family members posts and is all over them all the time even though she’s only met them a few times.

Yesterday I posted some ‘life news’ obviously she hasn’t liked/ interacted with it at all. Before when this has happened, the next time I see her she’ll say something like ‘oh congrats on the new job, I saw it on FB.’ So she clearly does see things. Obviously I’m not seeing her atm so she hasn’t had a chance to tell me she’s seen my news on FB (just letting me know that she DOES see my stuff)

She’s posted tonight a picture of her and my niece and nephew, I went to click ‘like’ and then thought, no, I’m not going to give it my usual ‘like’ because as petty as it sounds, I’m starting to think why the hell should I. She takes zero interest in my life, not just on FB but in general, she makes it clear she doesn’t really like me yet puts on a performance in front of my other family members and I’m just a bit sick of it tbh.

I feel bad as it’s not my niece and nephew’s fault but ultimately, I feel like a bit of a prat constantly interacting with someone’s FB who completely ignores mine.

People always say ‘FB isn’t real life’ but sometimes it can be reflective of it. I’ve had conversations with friends who have said they’ve deliberately ignored certain people’s SM posts, people do do it.

Do you like people’s posts that never interact with yours, or have you done similar?

Do people look to see who has liked their post??? It would never occur to me to check.

Of course I do.
On Instagram, I have 32 followers and I’ve never posted anything, so gods know what they’re following. 🤣

I don’t actually ever notice who likes anything I put online, and I only allow family to follow or friend me.

I like every picture I see on my insta feed. That's because I only follow 50 people who I am genuinely interested it and want to see.

I used to have loads of friends on Facebook but they weren't real friends. When I got insta I kept my followers really small. If I get a follower request I have a good think about whether I think they will be really interested in what I post.

I hear so many women saying nasty comments about someone else's insta and just think "why do you follow them?" one of my DHs friends was telling my dh in the pub that he just skips over all of a mutual friends posts because "she just babbles shit that no one cares about" and even my dh was thinking "so unfollow her".

This particular friend of my dh follows me but doesn't like my posts. If I become aware of someone doing this I'd usually just block them but this person would cause a scene I cant be bothered with.

But yeah, I dont post much but if I notice that someone hasnt liked any posts of mine I'll usually block them because they obviously arent interested. That's fine, I'm not cross about it they dont have to be interested in me but I like to interact with people on insta and if they dont want to interact I dont see the point

Yeh, exactly.

I can honestly count on 2 hands the amount of people I’ve added as a friend/ followed on SM. Generally I don’t add people as friends/ follow them.

I’ve had a few people through my hobby add me as a friend in the last few months, I’ve accepted them all but none have ever liked anything I’ve posted and I just think why on earth did you add me then?

Perhaps people on this thread saying ‘you’re childish’ etc could answer me that Q. If you regularly add people as a friend that AREN’T close friends/ family and never like their posts...why did you add them in the first place?

No. They can fuck right off.

I dont care tbh, as I say to my kids 'likes' and 'followers' dont bother me. It doesnt matter if I have 40 followers, I dont want people on there I dont know.
They of course can not understand why I dont want thousands of followers and likes.

I scroll every couple of days on FB and most days on Insta. Click a few likes or a hug or a love. I rarely comment and occasionally post on my page or one of the groups I am in.

I dont look to see who else has liked another family members posts. Other than my kids to make sure they are only friends with suitable people.

Stuff like this doesnt bother me. It wouldnt occur to me to even look.

I don't like anyone's stuff on social media usually, it doesn't occur to me, and my sister brought it up with me once - "I like everything you post, why don't you?". I was kind of surprised, but she saw it as me ignoring things she's done. I don't care if anyone likes stuff I post, either, though.

I think people just approach things differently.

Yes but that’s the point @therocinante, you don’t like anyone’s posts on SM so it’s fine. You’re not singling people out on SM to ‘ignore.’ I think it’s just obvious if someone is a prolific user and regularly interacts with people’s posts but ignores others. To me that’s just obvious that it’s deliberate and for a reason.

I don't often check fb. But, before a family party I do have a quick scroll so I can ask relevant questions 'How is the new job going?' Etc. Maybe unfollow her for a bit. Take a step back from it feeling so personal.

Facebook can be odd. Some may not comment or like my posts. I make an effort or say how kids doing/school etc.

I think in your case I would adjust my Facebook settings so your SIL can't see anything on your FB, even if she visits your profile - but I admit I can be petty at times

If she doesn’t generally like people’s post, then it’s just the way she is. But you say, she fawns over other family member’s post so I think she is sending you a message and you and your mum are aware enough to pick up on it. She’s just not that into you and is possibly playing mind games too. I wouldn’t bother liking her posts and just mention photos in passing when you see her.