Family days

[somethingelsethere]

If you are a family where both parents work, can you let me know how many days you get a month together as a family - so everyone on a day off..
trying to figure out if it's normal to have such little time together as we do 😭

Weekends I guess is normal for most people! So 8 give or take

No children here, but DH and I have every weekend together. We don't always choose to spend them together, but the option is there.

Two per week currently. But DH’s job patterns change every few months so it won’t always be the case, and hasn’t always been. Obviously for some families where both partners work shifts they can get zero days off together in a month.

None unless I book holiday. Husband comes home from work at tea time during the week and I go to work. He has weekends off. I work until lunchtime Saturday and Sunday.

Roughly every other Sunday normally, not at the moment though due to furlough we've had much more.

Only one working here but, pre-covid, we used to have barely any family time. DH usually works away during the week and with two teens playing football for two teams each that takes up our weekend too. As much as I love watching my DC play sports, I have really enjoyed the extra time together while they've not been able to play.

What's the situation with you OP?

We are both working shifts, so we it's looking like we will only get one family day a month with our two primary age kids.
Thinking of getting a different job so I don't have to work weekends which will give us a bit more time!
Seems it's quite normal though to not have a great deal of time all together l.

Weekends and then occasionally other days when taking AL.

Whole family, whole days. 2 days every 6 weeks. I get far more time with my DDs. DP works shifts on a 6 week rotation, and has synced up his weekend off with one of the weekends the girls are home. He is also currently considering changing roles so he can spend more time with us all together.

DH and I both work FT, officially M-F, but most weeks both have some work to do at weekends. I also have a volunteering commitment on Saturdays, and often 1 of us has to take teen DD to various sports training/matches/events over the course of the weekend (she can be out half of Saturday and most/all of Sunday at certain times of the year - regardless of what is going on with DH and I). We do take holidays together, and make family time for all of us together, but it may not be a whole weekend at once depending on what is going on. But we also try and get some downtime for ourselves and 1-on-1 time with DD or with each other, not just the 3 of us together.

So it's partly a work thing, and partly other things, that dictate the time we have together as a family.

Family days all together, only at the weekends unless it's school holidays & we both take annual leave or DH takes annual leave on my non-working days.

None, unless we take a day off. Both in the police and basically work each other’s days off. We have the same leave periods so we’re off at the same time three times a year. The alternative is hundreds of pounds a month on nursery fees for two children so we’re happy enough with the set up.

Bit different in our house...DH works offshore on 4 week rotation. So he’s away for 4 weeks then comes home to DS and I for 4 weeks off 😊 when I go back after may leave I’ll be doing 3 days per week so we’ll still be left with 4 days a week when DH is home.

@somethingelsethere

We are both working shifts, so we it's looking like we will only get one family day a month with our two primary age kids. Thinking of getting a different job so I don't have to work weekends which will give us a bit more time! Seems it's quite normal though to not have a great deal of time all together l.

I work all weekend, husband works all week. Our main family day is a Sunday but can also do Saturdays. I'll just be in between shifts. My shifts are Fri 10pm-6am into Monday morning. So I'm always knackered but we make it work.

Two or three on a good month.

Two shift workers.

Sunday every week. Every sixth week we get Saturday too.