Should he fill my car up

[ishetakingthepissornot]

So DH had an issue with his car and has been using mine all week.

I filled it up last weekend and have done about 7 miles since then myself.
He's used it to ferry DSS around locally and further afield and also to work once in the next town.
I got in my car this morning and the warning light is on for petrol.
I'm so annoyed at this. He's just announced he's off to put some in his car ready to take it to the garage mid week.

AIBU expecting him to refill or even half full my car up.
We don't have shared finances FYI.

Of course he should pay for the fuel he's used, just like he would in his own car. Just ask nicely that he repay you for the tank of fuel he used. It really shouldn't be a big deal.

YANBU

Tell him to go put some in yours too

He's just announced he's off to put some in his car ready to take it to the garage mid week.

Ask him to take yours afterwards.

He is a massive cf... My ds has been using my car and filled it up before I got it back!

He should fill it up.

CF

Yes he should.

It is particularly annoying when you get in the car to be greeted by the petrol light as it can delay where you are needing to go.

Yes he should offer the CF

That’s more about manners than money, in my opinion. Though it’s about money too!
That’s really rude of him. I’d tell him it’s like a hire car: full to full please!

Have you asked him to fill it up and he's refused or had he not thought that it would be the right thing to do?

Of course he should. He’s not making you likely to do him a favour in futile behaving like this is it?

I'd be so hurt. It's obvious where you are on his list of his priorities.

Cant imagine being cross or upset that my DH had used some petrol unless there wasn’t enough to get to the fuel station.

This is one of my main reasons for advocating shared finances. Either way, he should fill yours up or at least give you money and warn you that you'll need to fill up.

@Beseigedbykillersquirrels

Have you asked him to fill it up and he's refused or had he not thought that it would be the right thing to do?

No I've not mentioned it. I'm sitting here wondering if he'll realise it's the right thing to do.

@SplendidSuns1000

This is one of my main reasons for advocating shared finances. Either way, he should fill yours up or at least give you money and warn you that you'll need to fill up.

We don't have shared finances for lots of reasons. We have a joint accounts for bills which we both equally contribute to. Everything else is separate.

Of course he should fill it up. He has used all the fuel it's up to him to replace it.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Cant imagine being cross or upset that my DH had used some petrol unless there wasn’t enough to get to the fuel station.

Well, OP said the warning light is on 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wouldn’t care if I was paying for “his” use of fuel - but I’d be cross at how inconsiderate he was returning it like that. Wouldn’t even care if he said, “your fuel is low now” - I’d just say no worries, I’d know to refill. But yo just dump in back with the warning light on - rude. Rude isn’t what I look for in a husband.

Of course the money is relevant but it's more a matter of manners! You never leave a car empty when someone else is going to drive it next, it's just rude! I share a car with my sibling and I would always fill it up when it was empty!

I can't imagine being this petty in a marriage, even with shared finances it seems a bit much to count everything down to the line like this.

Is it common for you to pay each other back for every little thing?

If you split literally everything 50/50 and you never treat other then just ask him to fill up your car. For me, everything would balance out so I wouldn't but I'm not in your relationship.

There is no point being pissed off about it but not mentioning it though.

Yabu for not saying anything. He’s obviously not in the habit of filling up your car, so while it should have crossed his mind, chances are he’s actually not thought of it. I thought you’d meant you’d asked him to replace the petrol but he’d refused

You wouldn’t be allowed to do that with a hire car, so yes, I think he should fill up your car.
And get you some ‘thank you’ nibbles from the garage.🙂

We share everything financially so the money wouldn't be relevant but I wouldn't be happy if DH left me with no petroleum. That shows a total lack of respect

@Grandslam21 but he's been driving it about and must've been in the car when the petrol light came on for it to be on when OP got into it. So clearly he knew and should've filled it up, or at the very least told OP it needed filled up so she knew

Just to clarify it not about the money. I only mentioned finances to point it I paid for the petrol that's in it and it's not jointly paid for.

I think it's manners more than anything, if I'd used his car for a whole week for numerous journeys I'd be sure to make sure there was still
Petrol in it.

I've got to go out in the morning for work but I won't get there unless I go out of my way to get petrol. I don't see why I should when I didn't use the last lot I put in and he knew it was empty.

I think I'm irritated today because of other things he forgets to notice too. 🙄 (whole other thread right there)

I'm definitely going to mention it when he gets back. He can get his arse back out and deal with it.