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To not go in to work today

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Donatella · 21/03/2021 09:21

I'm off this weekend, it's the first full weekend I have had off in a while as I usually do overtime one day each week (generally work Mon-Thurs, have Fri off, then overtime Sat or Sun). This week I did overtime on Fri so am having 2 days off in a row. An overtime shift has come up and work have sent out several messages asking pleading for help (and offering additional pay above and beyond normal overtime rates). Not many people are qualified to do this particular role that needs covering today, and I am one of them. If no one picks up the shift the workload tomorrow will be huge and it has knock on implications for the rest of the wider team. I feel like I should go in, but I don't really want to (and resent the manager putting her plea on facebook as it is making me feel even more guilty). Am I wrong for not wanting to go in?

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Royalbloo · 21/03/2021 09:23

Can you offer to do a few hours instead of all of it?


CornishTiger · 21/03/2021 09:23

Do you want the money? Do you have plans? Do you need the rest?

Manager is incompetent if they haven’t organised work properly though


Alternista · 21/03/2021 09:25

No, don’t do it if you don’t want to.
If people keep coming to their rescue they’ll never sort it out properly. Sometimes the full effect needs to be felt for change to happen.

Enjoy your weekend Flowers


Grandslam21 · 21/03/2021 09:28

If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it


Peanutbutterandbananatoastie · 21/03/2021 09:29

I hated this at an old job. The manager was so incompetent she would phone you up at 5am asking you to come in ASAP.

Don’t go in.


Donatella · 21/03/2021 09:30

Yes, the option is there to just do a few hours, I'm leaning towards doing that.

I don't have plans, would be spending the day watching TV and playing Nintendo with DD. The money would be nice but I'm not desperate for it.

The workload was organised up until Friday when someone went sick (possibly a drip feed but I actually organise the rota for this particular role which is part of why I feel obliged to help, I'm also in tomorrow so would probably need to help clear the backlog).

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LittleOwl153 · 21/03/2021 09:32

I think you need to go with what you want to do with your day. Don't feel pressured by the Facebook post. Hide the page for the day I you need to. If you've nothing on and could use the money then go, if you've something planned (and that could be a soak in the bath!) Then you have plans.
Clearly the manager needs to up the rota if you are doing overtime each week anyway so maybe it will give them a shove to sort. Remember you might be one of few qualified but I assume you are not the only one and therefore given you have already done an extra this week surely there are others who could equally give up their weekend....


Isabella129 · 21/03/2021 09:35

@Donatella will you regret doing the overtime and pay the price later in the week by looking back and thinking you lost your relaxation time.

Sometimes you don’t need to have plans to justify some time off, or saying no.


Stirmecrazy · 21/03/2021 09:35

Sounds like you will be doing the clean up,for less money tomorrow. I would go in today . At least this way you will get paid extra for it.
But I would be looking at clawing some time off later in the week to make up for it


mynameisthesame · 21/03/2021 09:36

It's a tricky one. I'd be tempted to act dumb and say you didn't see it.

Your username is my real name! I got quite excited Grin other than Versace and when I go to Italy I never see it. Even though it's probably not actually your name!


SimplyMarvellousDarrrrrrling · 21/03/2021 09:39

Don't go, spend the time with your daughter
I'd be pissed off that they had interrupted my day off already


islockdownoveryet · 21/03/2021 09:41

Well if you didn’t see the message you won’t know that they are short staffed so just stay you didn’t see it .
Tbh if you feel you need the time off and by your op I’d say so then just don’t do it .
Don’t feel you have to take on extra shifts begrudgingly. If you want to do it do it , the work will be there tomorrow but at least you’ll have had a proper rest .


Donatella · 21/03/2021 09:42


It's a tricky one. I'd be tempted to act dumb and say you didn't see it.

Your username is my real name! I got quite excited Grin other than Versace and when I go to Italy I never see it. Even though it's probably not actually your name!

😁 No, not my real name, it's from the West Wing
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Ijustlikedthename · 21/03/2021 09:44

Personally I would ignore it and have a lovely day with my dd. She will probably love having you around for 2 full days in a row


KarmaStar · 21/03/2021 09:48

Depends on your dc I think if she was looking forward to spending time with you,and her age,then stay and spend quality time at home.
If she's older and has other plans I'd go in as you will be getting paid double today what you'll have to do tomorrow


LadyCatStark · 21/03/2021 09:49

Shame you decided to have a day of Facebook today...


StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 21/03/2021 09:51

You are entitled to your time. If there arent enough people with the skill set then that is a problem for management to fix by either training or hiring.


Donatella · 21/03/2021 09:52

Thanks for all the support to stay home, but the guilt has won and I am going in for a few hours. Not the whole day though, just long enough to do the most urgent bits so that it doesn't delay discharges (NHS if people hadn't guessed which is why we are so reliant on overtime!! The NHS couldn't run without people doing bank shifts).

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HeraInTheHereAndNow · 21/03/2021 10:05

You sound like you do need the weekend off. Say no.


notacooldad · 21/03/2021 10:14

Manager is incompetent if they haven’t organised work properly though
Not necessarily to be fair.
All it would take across some of our teams is two weekend staff to go off sick at fbe same time e over the weekend and the service would collapse. It would mean things like disabled children being sent home from respite care, domestic violence households not getting a welfare call.children not being checked on.
Across the teams we have 3 people in shift in each team. Normally it works very well but we have had a couple of cases in the last year where we have become unstuck as other team members have been off long term wuth Covid.

I see the op has gone in.
Personally I would have to for the extra money , make life easier for my next shift if I had to mop up tidays work and also because I can't really ho anywhere. I would negotiate some time off though.


FrankieFalcone · 21/03/2021 10:25

I’d be the same as you @Donatella and would probably go in. As a pp stated, you’ll have more to do tomorrow for less money.

This is happening where I work currently, I usually work 3 days a week but because of a huge backlog of paperwork, caused by being furloughed when I shouldn’t have been (another story), I’m working extra to catch up. If I didn’t, I would still be the one who needed to sort out the mess.


stuckinarutatwork · 21/03/2021 10:26

If you're going to end up picking up the bulk of the work tomorrow anyway, then I'd be inclined to go in and get paid extra for doing it today.


Wellyouknowbest · 21/03/2021 10:29

I think you should stay home! I've done this all week, done loads of over time, picked up bits of other people's jobs, and now on my day off I feel like shit! I'm knackered, feel like I've actually had a beer but I haven't and have to catch up in everything in the house. Your body and your family will thank you for having a rest


Sceptre86 · 21/03/2021 10:30

My brother would do this all the time when he started at the current hospital he works in ro the point where they just expected he would. He was overworked and stressed, has no kids or major bills and would do so out of guilt to help others but the same people wouldn't help him out when needed. He finally started saying no and is all the better for it. To avoid burnout you have to have a distinction between work and home life.


ImAlrightThanx · 21/03/2021 10:32

Don't, if you don't want to.
It's not your responsibility to cover shifts at the last moment.
Have a nice day with your DD and don't give it another thought.

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