DH and I have been together for 20 years. We've had more or less the same lifestyle in terms of health, though DH has always been more sporty than I am. He's also tended to be less of a moderator, bit more all-or-nothing than me.
When Covid came along he was quite overweight. He had been wanting to change a few things with his lifestyle anyway, and the link between covid mortality rates and obesity gave him a real push, plus he was diagnosed with a condition that's not fatal or anything, but is linked to lifestyle. It made him feel old, and a bit fragile I think.
Since then he has transformed many aspects of his lifestyle. He has stopped drinking (we used to share a bottle of wine 2-3 times a week, and have a wine cellar - it was / is a big interest of his (I just like drinking the wine!)). He started doing 16:8 where he basically skips breakfast, and only eats between 12noon and 8pm. For lunch, he eats an incredibly healthy mix of homemade muesli, kefir, berries etc. every day - he's happy eating the same thing every day. He's started doing exercises / yoga every evening (in our room, we are in a flat so no other space) at the same time. We still all eat dinner together (with our two x DSs) and he's not fussy about what I make, he'll eat whatever.
He has lost loads of weight, and is feeling stronger. This is great and I am genuinely happy for him and proud of him for creating and sticking to these new habits.
But I feel really left out! I used to enjoy having a drink together. I still have a couple of glasses, 3-4 times a week in the evening - usually one when I'm cooking and one more with dinner. But I feel like I should stay in the kitchen with it, partly so as to not tempt DH, partly because I feel like I'm doing something bad. Plus he's off in the bedroom doing his exercises every evening while I am cooking. I'm a bit overweight, and I'm sure that if I adopted a similarly healthy lifestyle it would fall off. But I don't want to! I like drinking wine, eating breakfast, having something other than a bowl of cereal for lunch. But I'm doing it all on my own now, and that makes them just a bit less fun and feels like a naughty indulgence that I really shouldn't be doing.
I don't think I have an AIBU - I know that IWBU to do anything other than support DHs quest to be healthier. But I feel like the naughty child now, indulging in all these bad behaviours. Maybe I just miss having a partner in (very minor) crime?
Anyone else got a partner who's adopted a different lifestyle? How does it work with you?