To ask you if your 3 year old is a nightmare dictator

[Llamasinpajamas]

Long time lurker.

DD 3.10 is a nightmare at the moment. Belligerent, won’t say sorry just goes into a massive grump, always wants their own way. What’s to do constantly f}#€#$ role play which kills me especially as I’m never doing it right so have her moaning and chastising the whole time. When I ask to do puzzles, colour, watch TV she gets pissy and says she wants to do role play but just moans.

Gorgeous baby, average toddler but is now killing me. Every day every thing seems to be a negotation. I know this is normal (probably) but PLEASE tell me yours at the same?! I need some solidarity!!!

Most 3 year olds are absolute knobs.

All mine are older now but I swear the only ‘good’ age is 7-10.

Before that they can be arseholes, after 11 hits, they can be absolute pricks till they are 16.

7-10 they are fairly self sufficient without too much shit thrown your way!

Yep DS has just turned 4 and has always been pretty... challenging but has definitely hit peak dictator in the last couple of months.

You are not alone!

YES YES YES!!!!!!!

@BeneficiaryMadness

Most 3 year olds are absolute knobs.

All mine are older now but I swear the only ‘good’ age is 7-10.

Before that they can be arseholes, after 11 hits, they can be absolute pricks till they are 16.

7-10 they are fairly self sufficient without too much shit thrown your way!

😂😂😂

And even then I only survive the 7-10 years with gin!

Agree 100% with Raisin's list, especially point 2!

Also agree it's a good idea to have more DC :o

Absolutely.!!

My 3.10 swings from the most affectionate gentle loving boy to rage. You don't see it coming. Throws things, hits, 'I hate you.'
It's come from I where in the last month although he is calming much quicker.

It's so hard x

Yes!!! I don’t know where my funny, pleasant, polite little girl has gone.
She actually speaks to me and dh like shit! She’s so rude and bossy and really couldn’t give a toss about anything we say.
I’m questioning everything I do as a parent but I’m flipping between I’m too soft on her or too hard on her and I don’t know which. Apparently she’s amazing at nursery!

Thanks @SnackSizeRaisin just screenshot your post

Yes and it lasted from age 3 until well about now and she is just about to turn 5! The amount of things I've done to placate her over the years, supernanny would actually be embarrassed for me I think

Hope the next one is laid back, dear lord I hope so

God I could have written this.

ds who has just turned 3, hes a bossy boots. No you sit there, no I dont want that (after asking for it), constant demands ...

@SnackSizeRaisin

1. Dont try and make them say sorry.

1. Don't play with them so much. 10 minutes of your undivided attention once or twice a day is enough. They can play alone or help with household chores instead.
2. Don't negotiate. Offer a couple of options and let them decide whether to accept one.
3. Prevent behaviour that you really don't want by removing the items rather than telling off or lengthy explanation.
4. Ignore any relatively harmless bad behaviour
5. Model the behaviour that you want, rather than telling them to do it
6. Remove most of their toys, just leave a few things out at once and rotate, it helps them play with it better
7. Spend as much time outdoors as possible
8. Spend as much time with other people as possible

A lot of this is probably a manifestation of lockdown frustration!

This 1000%. Especially 2.

Mine is dreadful. I swear he is a mini dictator and everything has to be his way, regardless of who it will benefit. I hate this horrible, stroppy, unpleasant child he has become, it’s awful. Mind you, the fucking fours were worse with my oldest - I look forward to the fantastic fives!!