To think this is ridiculous?

[Peterpainter]

I don’t normally post AIBUs and I apologise if this has been discussed already.

I know there are cases where abuse leads to abusers but seriously who aims to raise someone who will hurt women? Wtf?

How can anyone make that promise?

I know it’s just a silly picture and it doesn’t matter but it’s annoyed me.

[FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken]

I am not trying to say it's all womens fault btw, just realised it looks like this. Just that people can say things but not realise that the way they act has as no bearing compared to their words

[greeneyedlulu]

FSS totally get your point, I see so many posts on here where women really do accept being in shit relationships and its awful. We all need to educate our children both girls and boys on self worth, self respect and respect for others.
I've had some real shitty relationships and until my current, and most certainly forever relationship now, I never realised what true love was and how I should have been treated before. I pray that my children see this and grow up knowing what it is to be loved, happy and respected.

[Ohyesiam]

I haven’t read the thread, but doesn’t it Imply that you will talk about consent, objectification and stereotyping and pick your son up on anything fishy he says about girls/ women.
I agree it’s too trite though

[AmyandPhilipfan]

One of my friends shared that the other day and I said to my husband I thought it was ridiculous. How can anyone make such a promise? Once a child becomes an adult there are all sorts of reasons why they might do something and not all those reasons can be linked back to how they were parented. I have a daughter and I can’t promise she’ll always be kind to a future partner, no matter how I try to to raise her to respect other people. I hope I’m modelling how to treat others but ultimately how she chooses to behave will be down to her.

[Cassilis]

@greeneyedlulu

It just makes me feel ick to think this sort of stuff when my kid is only 7. Of course I'm raising my son to be responsible, respectful and all the other things that come along with being a decent human being but to think of his future sex life now is just a bit much!

It’s not about sex necessarily. Why would you go there?

Women aren’t safe from men in many situations.

[BigPaperBag]

I’d feel offended by that. My boy was accused by his step-sister of something about two years ago and we immediately knew there was something off about it. She gave extremely specific details that couldn’t possibly have been true. She backed down very quickly but now I don’t want her in the house (and she doesn’t come anymore) as I want him to feel safe. Stupid memes like that show how boys are being made out like they’re second class citizens and that girls are always in the right when that’s not necessarily true.

[LovelyLovelyWarmCoffee]

I voted YANBU but actually I have changed my mind.

A big problem is that men don’t see women as their equal. They believe the woman is in charge of the house and children, she is there to serve their food, clean their clothes and owes them sex.
Apart from the sex part, the rest is highly influenced by what they see growing up.

So as mothers it is our responsibility to NOT accept to be treated like the maid and not become «just a mum».
A lot of women (RL and mumsnet) are doing all the household chores, are the DC’s main carer, and wouldn’t dare to treat their husband like he treats them.
It is our responsibility to discuss childcare before having children. It is our responsibility to refuse to be put in a situation where we can’t live a partner because we depend on them. It is our responsibility to refuse to do the housework if our partner doesn’t do his fair share.

So, yes, as mothers it is our job to show our sons how a woman should (or shouldn’t) be treated! Take some responsability.