DP went 'ew' when I kissed him and then surprised I don't want sex - AIBU

[BurbageBrook]

My DP usually wakes up later than me on Saturday but also usually wants to have sex in the morning. (No kids yet.) So often on Saturdays I will come back to bed after I've already had breakfast, coffee, done my make up etc and brushed my teeth to have a bit of a cuddle and often leads to sex. (I don't mind if he hasn't brushed his teeth yet but it makes me cringe to have sex when I have only just woken up and not yet washed my face/brushed mine.)
Anyway so today I came back to bed for a cuddle when he woke up and was wearing a small amount of lipstick (just because I had already done my make up for the day so had kind of just put lipstick on without thinking). We had a cuddle and I kissed him on the cheek and he said 'Ewww....wet'. I genuinely did not give him a slobbery or wet kiss so I assume it must have been the texture of the lipstick?
Anyway he's now surprised that I don't really fancy sex now because I feel like he reacted with such disgust towards me kissing him.
However, happy to accept I may be being completely OTT and unreasonable. He already said sorry if he hurt my feelings but I just can't feel 'sexy' now. It turns me off massively that he could be so easily repulsed just by the texture of my lips, but maybe I'm being unreasonable to wear lipstick and then kiss him...
Appreciate I may be being oversensitive...
AIBU?

Sorry OP but I think YABU

Not by wearing lipstick to kiss him but I just think you might be being oversensitive IMO

No need to apologise suddengate- I can be quite oversensitive to rejection so I'm happy to get some perspective if IABU!

If he does it a lot, then yanbu. My husband makes similar 'jokes' all the time and wonders why I get pissed off with him

Either there's a massive drop-feed, or you need a sense of proportion.

YAB overly sensitive but you shouldn't feel bad for not wanting sex, no matter the reason.

I think YABU and a bit over sensitive. The ‘ew’ wasn’t because he doesn’t find you attractive, he just didn’t like the feeling of lipstick on his face. Not sure id like it much either. He wasn’t ‘repulsed’ by you, he just didn’t like the feel of it.
On the other hand you are never obligated to have sex and don’t need a reason not to, so YANBU on that front.

Do you always do your makeup before you go back to bed for sex? I appreciate I am maybe missing the point

Oh bless you, but I do think you are being a bit over sensitive. My DH hates the texture of lipgloss/lipstick, even just normal lip balm sometimes! I try to remember not to kiss him on the lips if I am wearing some, and he has definitely down the “ew” reaction when I’ve forgotten and kissed him - I think it’s the surprise for him as much as anything else now! But it’s no big deal.
However, I guess it depends how strong his “ew” reaction was at to how it made you feel, we weren’t there!

I can see why it would upset you and why it would be a turn off for you.

Never feel bad about not wanting sex, whatever the reason. It's your body.

@MRex not a drip-feed but I would say since the start of our relationship I've felt that I'm a somewhat more sexual person than him and I've often initiated more in the past. But, that has evened out now, and I don't usually feel like that anymore. But it's possible my feelings around that from the past have made me oversensitive....

Seems the majority feel I am being a little oversensitive which is fair and not really surprising. I will try to get over myself on that front! Thank you! It's really helpful to hear that @ATowelAndAPotato. But equally, it is nice to be reassured it's OK not to fancy sex now as well. I guess I only get turned on for sex when I feel very 'desired' so that's why the 'ew' has maybe disproportionately bothered me. I'm sure I'll be over it and in the mood by later on..

@siyhack58342 - I don't necessarily do a full face of make up but will often.... he tells me not to wear make up so much, but I am quite insecure about my appearance without it. He only really sees me fully without make up when it's dark at night time.

However, to be fair I normally wake up at 7 and he wants to sleep in till 9 on a weekend so I've usually also watched an episode of something on TV, had breakfast, etc, by that point. So I'm not getting out of bed just to do my make up as such.

I think YANBU. What bad manners he displayed.

@BalloonSlayer I think bad manners is a really good way to put it! Yes that's kind of how it felt - just rude!

On the other hand - he is normally not like that. So I guess I should just let this one go.

(I should say he's not pressuring me for sex at all, he's not like that at all, he just doesn't understand why this upset me.)

Rude.

Next time he comes a-looking go
‘Eeeeeeew -sausagey’ and wrinkle your nose in pretty disgust.

What’s eeeew for the goose and all that

Impressed that you put on a full face of makeup first thing!

I think you should let it go OP. He wasn’t saying you’re a bad kisser, just that it was a bit wet due to makeup. :) I’d probably laugh and go “Well, now you’ve put me off sexy time so you will have to work harder”. ;) Have a lovely weekend!

Thank you everyone for responses - think consensus is that I am being a bit unreasonable and oversensitive so I will let it go! Even if he was a bit rude, he is normally a lovely boyfriend TBF. He can attempt to seduce me this evening instead

My boyfriend also hates the feel of lipstick, most men do.

I wouldn't fall out over this op.

Thanks @MaLarkinn - I've realised I was being quite precious and gone to give him a hug! Bit of a storm in a teacup

He was rude for saying ew! There ha a way to speak to people, he could just say oh I’m not a fan of the lipstick.

If it’s changed your mood then that is fine, if you don’t feel up for sex now then he should have just dropped it! I hate the term over sensitive, it undermines your genuine feelings!

"He was rude for saying ew! There ha a way to speak to people, he could just say oh I’m not a fan of the lipstick."

I prefer ew to that. I don't think I'd fancy sex with someone so prim that they said "oh I'm not a fan" when I kissed their cheek 😂