Daughters emotional health

[Shockedmama]

Hi

My daughter developed tics 2 years ago following being quite heavily bullied and us moving home as well as having severe constipation which meant having suppositorys which she found really awful. Things are much better now and I feel she is happy and confident but she does have the tic still at times and some ocd type behaviours like having sounds on at even numbers or sometimes (although rarely) saying she has to say a word a few times. The most severe one is she has periods of being consumed with my mum dying and has to say goodbye in a certain way each time as she worries it will the last, this pandemic certainly hasn’t helped and iv tried to shield her from that behaviour.
I spoke to ththe doctor about it and he suggested a camhs referral but I’m worried about it growing if I make it into a big deal but at the same point I want to help her and address it in a certain way. Her tic has calmed a bit lately and I think this is linked to school life being better for her. What would you do?

I'd ask for a CAMHS referral.
It will likely take months anyway. (DD has been waiting since May). If you ever get to the front of the queue you can decide then whether to take an appointment.

CAMHS (check to see if you can self refer in your area) and you can then, as TeenMinus says, decide not to take the offer of support if you feel you don't need it when offered. Be aware there are usually long waiting lists after the initial assessment. You could always look for local support groups on FB or local area as it's sometimes comforting to have other adults who have similar experiences to talk to.