DH called me rude and inconsiderate

[LiJo2015]

Scenario - watching TV with DH, son (11 years), myself and 7 month old daughter. Im playing with daughter, obviously both making noise. DH gets arsy as its interrupting TV. I say this is the family room and he knows not to expect to watch tv in peace if he wants to actually watch a programme properly. He expresses that son wanted to watch it too. He later says my actions were rude and inconsiderate, that we have a big house and i can go elsewhere to play with daughter and god forbid actually make noise!

This has royally fucked me off. God forbid i actually do do something rude and inconsiderate!

But... am a being the twat here or is DH the twat?

Sorry Op. Well done for taking it on the chin. I think you were unreasonable too.

We have a family room and an adult room. Kids are welcome in both but the adult room is generally expected to be quieter.

If we are in the family room dh wouldn't dream of asking us to be quiet - he would go and watch the program in the other room. At the same time if we where all in the adult room and one of the dcs started to get noisy and interrupted a program/film etc I'd go with them to the family room ( or dh depending on who was more bothered about what we had on the tv)

It depends entirely on your set up

@LiJo2015

Thanks for responses. Always good for wider perspective. Im going to get down off my very tall horse and smudge my war paint (just a little) and wave a white flag in his general direction.

Haha we're all annoying at some point, I'm sure he's done far worse things that have annoyed you

he knows not to expect to watch tv in peace if he wants to actually watch a programme properly.
What does this mean, it sounds quite odd?

Why have a TV in the family room then if according to you noone should be expecting to watch it properly. Seems strange, I think yabu

YABU if that is the room where people watch tv. I do like to have some time to unwind in front of the tv and I would be annoyed if someone was being noisy and there was another room free.

Although I’m not sure why he couldn’t just ask you to go into another room.

I hadn’t seen your update and didn’t mean to stick the boot in.

YABU

I'm with your DH on this one, sorry.

If the family room is the only room with a tv, then yes you should move how would you feel if someone talked all through a programme you were watching

Family room is for family? So why are you and your 7 month old not family

Next time apologize profusely, hand him the baby and go for a bath 😁

YABU; your husband was right, you were inconsiderate and rude.

We have telly on a lot. Often it's just background, so younger dc can chunner away. If it's something we're actually watching, then it's quiet .

When you say 'family room', do you really mean a lounge/living room?

Yep, you were being pretty annoying - YABU. Eat humble pie.

Inconsiderate to keep a7 month old occupied

DH does this......with the bloody dog. I'll be watching something and a stuffed hedgehog will fly past followed by DH praising dog loudly and then playfighting.

I've mastered the "pause and glare" now.

Thanks everyone for your replies - we had a good chat, each apologised and will endevour to do better next time 😎

I think the fact that dd is a baby changes things slightly. Are you often expected to keep dd out of the way so he can watch tv in peace?

Putting the subtitles on generally helps with watching TV with small kids around.

@noworklifebalance

I am with your husband on this one.

From what you say, you have a house big enough that you can enjoy playing with your daughter and leave your DH and DS to watch tv together.

Exactly this. Why couldn't you have left them in peace?

Thanks everyone for your replies - we had a good chat, each apologised and will endevour to do better next time

It’s nice to see a thread about a relationship that talk to each other like normal adults!