In-laws using our skip

[DawnR96]

Please tell me if I'm just being a hormonal cow and I know this is such a petty problem but we're moving house, I paid for a skip because we have loads of stuff to throw away. I had to really struggle to pay for this skip and my in-laws who unfortunately live next door to us decided to dump 6 bags of rubbish into our skip without asking. I'm furious and want to call them out about being cheeky so and so but I also don't want to cause a scene as we're usually on good terms.

Its my time of the month, it's been a hard week but this literally nearly made me explode.

Take them out and don’t say anything. If they ask mention that you plan to Chuck them on top if there’s space

Tell them to take it out and if you have room left when you have put in everything you hired the skip for they can put it in then.

I’d do what @VettiyaIruken suggests - it makes your point but also doesn’t make you the bad guy.

Fill the skip, if you have more leave it bagged up on their lawn. That's cheeky of them.

For me, it'd depend on the type of rubbish in the bags and how big they were vs the size of the skip. If it was soft/air filled rubbish in the bags then chucking your stuff on top could well compact them down into 'nothing'.

However, it's not unreasonable to take the bags out, return them to the in-laws and just let them know that you'll put them on top at the end if there's room.

Ask them if they'd like to pay by cash or card.

Very rude of them not to ask first. I would be inclined to ask if they want to share the cost.

Do you think it's possible that you won't fit your own rubbish in on top? If this is a real concern, I'd do as others have suggested and remove their bags (put them back on in-laws' property) and tell them you'll let them know if there's space for it once you've thrown all your stuff away.

On the face of it, it does seem very cheeky. But it depends really on your relationship with them. Do they help you out a lot? Babysit? Help you with errands or money etc? If so, they may just have a "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine" mentality. It may not cross their mind that it would be a problem because they wouldn't bat an eye if the roles were reversed.

YABU for living next to your in laws
I love mine but no way on this planet I'd live next door.

@SpacePotato

YABU for living next to your in laws I love mine but no way on this planet I'd live next door.

We lived here first, they moved afterwards not too my happiness

Thanks all, I was just annoyed that they didn't ask. My mil always does stuff like this, she's a right cheeky cow sometimes. I'll take it out and if I can fit it on top I will but otherwise they can take their stuff away

I’d get your dh to say to them, “we’ll let you know if we have any room in the skip once we’ve finished filling it ourselves, so in the meantime please don’t dump any more of your own rubbish in there. I can give you the contact info if you want one of your own. It cost £xxx for xxx days”.

I already told them multiple times if we have enough room left in the skip we would let them use it. I'm so angry over it and I know its silly 😂

They are cheeky but you're being petty. If your parents did that would you have the same reaction?

I admit, I'm being petty but I am also trying to move with 3 kids and I have a ton of stuff to get rid off. I didn't spent over 200 pounds for them to just happily chuck their rubbish into our skip when I've still got loads to get rid off. I am also well aware how irrational I'm being but I'm so sick of them doing things like this that this was the last straw 😂

@lboogy

They are cheeky but you're being petty. If your parents did that would you have the same reaction?

I think I'd be even worse if my parents did it 😂 they would know to ask

We lived here first, they moved afterwards not too my happiness

Ugh, the nerve. Please tell me you are moving far, far away?

Far enough 😂 we've always been civil but living next to them hasn't been easy. They probably feel the same way about us though to be fair. I think I'm going to have a glass of wine and try to calm myself down after an awful day 😂

Take them out then make sure you fill up the skip so there is no room for them

I don't think it's petty to be annoyed, OP. They didn't pay for the skip, and they didn't even bother to ask first. It's best to stay calm, as you're planning, but I wouldn't hesitate to remove their rubbish and make sure you have enough room for your own things before putting it back.

OP - It just occurred to me. Did they not ask either your or DH? If you've not checked with your DH yet then it'd be worth making sure he didn't say they could.

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No wonder you are moving out!

When dh and I were looking for our first home he wanted to view 3 in the little estate his parents lived in

Dump them on their lawn! Skips are so expensive!

It wouldn't bother me personally but if it really limits what you can put in it then I might have to have a word. With bin bags can you not bounce on it and crush it a little?