AIBU to ask for advice?

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I've just broken up with my fiancé.
Long story short he didn't feel the same anymore and couldn't see himself having children with me. There was no huge argument no nothing just a simple calm conversation of him telling me how he feels.
I'm 27 and now living back at my parents and feel completely distraught about the whole thing, I feel absolutely humiliated!

has anyone else ever been though something like this that can give me advice on how to get through it? I feel absolutely awful

I'm so sorry for what you're going through, but the truth is that he's done you the biggest favour of your life. For as hard as this is, a disastrous marriage would have been far, far worse. All you can do is take it day by day and move forward.

Why are you humiliated? You found out just in time and it’s not your fault. You just both have different goals in life.

Just huge hugs 💐 you will get through this, allow yourself to feel what you feel. Do you anyone in real life who you can talk to?

Thank you everyone and @rainbowninja all of my close friends know but they are just as shocked as me as there was absolutely nothing wrong. We never argued or anything. It's just one of those things

It must be a big shock and it’s horrible to go through a big break up. But as others have pointed out this is much better than him realising this after you’re married (or realising now, but ignoring it only for it to blow up a few years down the line).

Allow yourself to grieve your relationship but don’t allow it to make you feel humiliated. It’s not a reflection on you, it’s not something you could’ve controlled. One day you’ll look back on this and it’ll seem like a distant memory but for now, take each day as it comes and know it’ll get easier.

@Sparklesocks it's honestly a huge shock I'm still in shock now I honestly haven't even sat and properly cried about it.

Thank you for your sweet words

Poor you OP. It will feel horribly raw right now and you’re in shock but things will get better. At least things were calm and civil, maybe one day you’ll be able to salvage a friendship if you want to.

Lick your wounds, and if you can, reframe it in your mind. Instead of grieving what you had with him, be excited for the possibilities for the future. He was never your ‘one’, you had different paths, but now you are free to find someone more suitable who can give you what you want, and that’s nothing to feel sad about.

I do feel for you I know it doesn't seem possible now, but given a bit of time, probably when you've met "the One", you'll be glad he was honest.
If he'd kept his mouth shut and slept walked into marriage it would've been much worse in the end.
Take care of yourself and cry it all out. There's no humiliation here honestly.

Thanks ladies for your kind words, I really do appreciate it.
I know it's a lot easier said than done but I can't help but feel like I've completely wasted my time.

I know maybe this was for the best but it might take me some time to see it

Hope you’re ok OP.

Again the wasting time thing depends on how you look at it. You didn’t say how long you’d been together, but I bet in that time you learnt a lot about yourself and relationships, that you can take forward. It must feel very frustrating that he wanted different things to you, but you really have nothing to feel embarrassed about. Hold your head up high and when people ask what happened you can say that you talked about where your lives were going, and what you both wanted wasn’t compatible. In that circumstance the only logical thing to do is go your own ways, no one will judge or pity you for that.