Anyone got any advice.
I have recently separated from my ex DH. There was emotional and verbal abuse and conflict at home. I haven’t told DC 5 and 3 what is happening as there is a court case pending and I don’t know the expected outcome. The court case is a major stress. We’re stuck in rented flat with no garden until the court case so life is on hold and dressed.
I work full time but from the home.DC 3 only does 15 hours nursery. DC 5 is at school. So often tired and stressed with work commitments working late
Into the night with lack of sleep.
My DC are so badly behaved at the moment. I think they don’t go to bed early enough which doesn’t help. Also too
Much tv. The 5 year old is the worst she tantrums screams and shouts . Every day getting to school is a battle. My 5 year old gets there often refusing to wear a cardigan or coat and hair straggly and Unbrushed, they just won’t do anything I ask. My 5 year old tells me to shut up, kicks and hits. My 3 year old just runs riot. I feel like the worst parent as I’m always telling my DC especially the 5 year old off. I would describe myself as a pacifist and quiet so i feel awful and embarrassed. I feel so awful shouting but I’m at my wits end I can’t get them to behave.
I’m not sure if it’s the years of conflict. I just feel really depressed and disappointed my life is such a mess and I am frazzled all the time. I was hoping when split with ex DP it would get easier. He blames me for their behaviour and I always thought it was because they witnessed conflict. Maybe I wasn’t able to concentrate as much as I should because was scarred of the conflict and protecting DC from ex DP.
Feel frazzled and down
Any suggestions?