To not let him in my house anymore?

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My ex hasn’t seen our children in 2 months, at first he started making excuses saying he was isolating but it went on for way longer than anyone needs to isolate, when he couldn’t get away with that any longer it was then because he was ill. A few days ago he said that the reason he isn’t seeing the children is actually because I’m always “acting funny” (so he was lying about being ill then ) by acting funny he means that I am not ok with him going 2 months without seeing them which I’ve made clear but apparently I should be all fine with that.
He makes out like we are friends when I cannot stand him and would be happy to never see or speak to him again. He will only see them by coming to my house (he won’t take them) but I don’t want him in my house as he makes me feel uncomfortable, so because I stayed in my room the last time he came that’s me “acting funny” and he won’t see them because of that!

Am I right to think I shouldn’t have to have my ex in my house? And that however way he thinks I’m “acting” isn’t a reason to not see his children? Aibu to tell him he can’t come in my house anymore?

This will mean he won’t see them but I can’t cope with it anymore, he has text me to say I’m stopping him from seeing them when I’m not I just said he can’t see them in my house anymore. I haven’t heard from him since so no doubt he won’t bother to see them now.

(Just for back ground there was some DV during our relationship and we didn’t end in good terms so I feel like I’m being forced into a situation I don’t want to be in but either way I just don’t want him in my house)

Yanbu, I wouldn’t let my ex in my house under any circumstances!

Absolutely never have him in your house again, your kids won't benefit from his sporadic, half-arsed visits. It sounds like he's using this as a control tactic to gain access to your home/safe place.

Come on, you start a new thread about this loser on a regular basis.

He's still an abuser. You're still not helping yourself.

Abusers don't like losing control of you. Doesn't mean you're wrong to break free of their control.

YANBU. As pp said he is still trying to control and abuse you. Wanker

Stop letting him in your house!! Why do you STILL let him control you?

It’s hard to see it as controlling as I didn’t realise that’s what it was, sorry for posting about him again but I don’t have many people irl to speak to so I haven’t really got anyone to talk to about it and I’ve been accused of now stopping him from seeing them

He can accuse you all he likes, he is not entitled to come into your home and you shouldn’t feel guilt tripped into it.

The children are better off not seeing who won’t pick them up regularly, even once a week, and take them to home or to the park.

What do you think he can do if you say no? He won’t do anything except pretend that he’s being denied his children, but people will see through him.