To just quit now???

[hillarypcof]

I start a new job at the beginning of next month, and my last working day in my current role is next Wednesday as I have some annual leave to use up before I go.

The new job is career progression and higher salary but my current job/colleagues have always taken the p*ss. Slacking. Totally abusing WFH by barely being at their laptop for half the day. Me being left with work to complete and picking up their pieces.

Since informing my colleagues that I am leaving this has only got worse, it is as if they are punishing me for leaving them in the lurch (I'm not, I have always done more than my fair share!!!)

Basically AIBU to just leave now? I'm not sure how much more of this i can take. I would take unpaid leave for the remainder of days that my annual leave does not cover.

My manager is a lovely person but not a good manager and let's these individuals get away with acting like this. It is making my final few days in the role incredibly negative and has started to impact on my moods and my personal life. My partner was pleading with me this evening to do something about this as he says he can see what it is doing to me and he does not like it.

What shall I do??? :-(

@GalleryGirl

The way I deal with these things is to work out how much it would cost to take the unpaid leave. Let's say you get £100 a day, and you've got 5 days left (just pulling figures out the air, sorry)

Would you pay £500 to not go in?

This is a really good point! Tbh at this rate yes. I have some good savings behind me and for the sake of not being awake all night every night, and not being a short-tempered bitch with my friends and family I would do anything to get out of this job now x

I don't think you have anything to gain personally by rocking the boat, an exit interview only helps them, so offer it or whistleblow if you want, however I think you should tell your manager you need to wind down, tie up loose ends and stop working excessively. By all means request unpaid leave but presumably they don't have to grant it?

Because my conscience won't allow!!!! Wish I had the balls to do this

How can you say this and then just walk out. The 2 are very contradicting.

Why don't you just do what work you can in your standard hours, don't sweat it and don't work overtime
Just because other colleagues are slackers doesn't mean you should be too.
Also you may have your references now but there is no guarantee your new job will work out and you may need a reference from the NHS. It won't look very good if you have then just walked out.
I think what the issue is with your situation OP is that you are excited about your new job and can't wait arsed with your old one now.
Unfortunately you are an adult, behave like one and get through the next 7 days at work in a dignified mature manner

@Taborlin

Because my conscience won't allow!!!! Wish I had the balls to do this

How can you say this and then just walk out. The 2 are very contradicting.

Why don't you just do what work you can in your standard hours, don't sweat it and don't work overtime
Just because other colleagues are slackers doesn't mean you should be too.
Also you may have your references now but there is no guarantee your new job will work out and you may need a reference from the NHS. It won't look very good if you have then just walked out.
I think what the issue is with your situation OP is that you are excited about your new job and can't wait arsed with your old one now.
Unfortunately you are an adult, behave like one and get through the next 7 days at work in a dignified mature manner

Not at all. This job is burning me out at present and I cannot afford to go into my new job exhausted.

@StealthPolarBear

It sounds like you've decided to do the right thing op but just making the point that if you quit now, won't you lose your continuous service for redundancy, holidays and pension?

She doesn't care, op is starting a new job in a couple weeks

Not at all. This job is burning me out at present and I cannot afford to go into my new job exhausted.
Bur you don't be, you e already said you have annual leave to use to finish off your notice period plus weekends, so can rest and recharge then. Or delay your new start date by a week.
You just don't want to work your notice is the long and short of it.
I've come across enough people like this in my 25 years of working.
An adult who behaves like an adult would do the work they are contracted to do until their employment ends and then move on gracefully

Taborlin I think it’s an internal role so it would still apply

I care very much so, hence having these mental debates trying to weigh up my wellbeing vs the needs of the service and the demands of my department.

If I didn't care I wouldn't be thinking twice and I would have up-sticks and gone days ago.

You really have got yourself convinced that everything must be your responsibility, haven't you?

The very best advice I can give is to use this last week to let go. Practice healthier new work patterns before you start the new job, you can't take them with you!

So, work you hours, do your onw part of the job, let your manager tell the other two to buck their ideas up. If something misses a deadline it is not, probably never has been, YOUR fault.

Once you see something fail, or get picked up by someone else in apanic, you suddenly realise just how unecessary that feeling of absolute responsibility has always been. Take THAT to your new job.

@CuriousaboutSamphire

You really have got yourself convinced that everything must be your responsibility, haven't you?

The very best advice I can give is to use this last week to let go. Practice healthier new work patterns before you start the new job, you can't take them with you!

So, work you hours, do your onw part of the job, let your manager tell the other two to buck their ideas up. If something misses a deadline it is not, probably never has been, YOUR fault.

Once you see something fail, or get picked up by someone else in apanic, you suddenly realise just how unecessary that feeling of absolute responsibility has always been. Take THAT to your new job.

Thank you 💕

I think as it's only until next Wednesday, I would stick it out, take your foot off the gas, do lots of handover notes and pace yourself. If you need a day out with 'sickness' then do that, but it's such a short time, I would try to disassociate yourself from the role by sticking to your hours, handing work over etc.

It will be good practice if you find yourself in this type of position again.

If this has been going on for ages, it's strange to raise it so loudly in your last week and I suspect it will backfire on you.

They'll notice the hole in the workforce after you've left.

Work your hours BUT make a huge change- half way through the day email your manager and say that you don't think deadline xyz and said will be made and which would she like you to prioritise.

This is your managers problem to solve. She has 3 staff members and herself, it is not your responsibility but hers.

when I'm able to eventually leave my current job I'll take at least the last two days off sick

I would not lose money, unpaid leave, because of lazy colleagues. I once did a similar thing to what you suggesting, everything that went wrong in that final week, including some petty stealing. Was blamed on me. I had no defense and it felt pretty awful to be blamed.

I wouldn’t leave early or pull a fake sickie. I’d power through, then have a guilt-free few days before I started my new job.