Annoyed about Mothers Day

[Amielondon23]

My mums in hospital- very very unwell. Very upset I haven’t been able to see her therefore Mother’s Day was quite sad for me this year. Couldn’t even speak to her in the phone as she’s not well enough.

AIBU to be royally pissed of that my husband gave me nothing from our 6 year old for mother day?
I had a card. Which was lovely but nothing else. Not even a cuppa tea in bed.
He said it was because he was skint- BS! He earns good money.
I wasn’t expecting diamonds! A bunch of daffodils and a bar of chocolate would have been perfect.
My daughter also has £50pocket money saved up. Surely one of them could have thought to take £2 out of that if he was truly skint (which he’s not)
AIBU to be a little ticked off with my 6 year or do you think she’s too young to think about Mother’s Day gifts?
They were both with me when I brought his mum a beautiful bunch of flowers- surely the thought passed through one of their heads to get me something!
It’s Tuesday and I’m suddenly feeling really pissed off about it!

I mean, you did get a card from your daughter which is technically what it's all about. However, it sounds like you're having a really tough time with worrying about your poor mum, and some extra TLC wouldn't have gone amiss regardless.

Why were you buying his mum flowers? Were they from all of you? In which case that's you're problem right there. If he's not even sorting his own mum because you don't for him, how do you expect the lazy git to even think he has to bother with you? A bad message for your daughter as well.

Blame your thoughtless husband, not your six year old.

Not unreasonable to be annoyed at your DH, but unreasonable to be annoyed at your 6 year old. Why does your 6 year old spending money on you matter to you? When my DS (also 6) makes me a card he is so proud of himself, and he also has virtually no sense of money so that card means more than a cheap bar of chocolate. Your DH should be making more effort though, especially when your own mum is so poorly. Sorry about your mum, must be such a difficult time I hope you are able to talk to her soon.

I think your DH is teaching your DC to be inconsiderate, you need to teach them to be thoughtful, I would have a gentle conversation and say you feel a little sad and ask them to help you think of some ideas to make people feel special on a special day.

I don't know why people get so worked up over Mothers' Day.
I bet your 6 yo shows you he loves you every day off the year.

YABU from the second you asked if YABU to be annoyed with a SIX year old child. Really??!!!

Confusing vote, OP. YANBU to be pissed off at DH. YABVU to be pissed off at a 6 year old, especially when DH isn't encouraging.

Your right it’s not her fault. I just felt really unappreciated.
I’m in a very low place at the moment- I’m not sure my
Mum is going to pull through. I think i was just hoping he’d had made me feel extra loved on Sunday. I ended up making him breakfast!
Yes I brought the flowers because otherwise he’d have picked the cheapest bunch of flowers he could
get away with. I love his
Mum and would have been embarrassed if I’d left it to him to get her something.
I’ve spoke to him and said I felt disappointed- he just said ‘yeah well I’m a failure arnt I- but just remember I Do pay the mortgage which is
More than a bunch of daffodils’

I work 24 hours a week and also contribute.

I’m going out tomorrow to buy myself
Some flowers and chocolate!

Sorry op. The mortgage comment and how he'd treat his mum on his own terms reflect that he's not poor- he just a tight ungrateful bastard. How hard is a basic acknowledgement? "Sorry I let you down, I'll try harder next time". Even if it were an empty promise, it would be better than a thinly veiled reminder that you shouldn't complain and be grateful for any scraps he send your way.

He doesn’t sound very nice