To ask what concerns you would have if any about adult female relative posting pornographic photos of themselves on social media.

[Nursejackie1]

This is what a relative of mine is doing. For context she is a married mother with 4 young children. All the adult family, uncles etc are on her social media. I mention this because of the possible impact this could have on the kids. Started off with showing a lot of cleavage, tiny shorts etc and has quickly progressed to thongs, topless and erotic poses. The comments are all positive.. along the lines of your confidence is amazing, hottt etc. Something about all this makes me feel she is taking great risks and makes me feel uneasy.
Am I being ridiculous and should mind my own business, it’s her body she can do what she likes.
Or did you think somebody needs to have a chat with her about potential risks of having photos like that of yourself out in the public domain?

Well to me that would be huge red flags regarding het mental health.

There are plenty of places to post that content which are unlikely to be seen by uncle Dick.

The need for validation sometimes outweighs common sense.
If she want to be an Internet thot, that is totally up to her, but it may be more sensible to do it on a separate account of social media.
Yes, it may come back to bite her in the ass, especially as an Internet search is so easy to do and kids are merciless about teasing their "friends" with their parents. But what can you do? She will not hear you, and you are not responsible for the fallout on her family. Sometimes, we can only learn though hard lessons.

I have wondered about this @Wherearemymarbles also.
I feel like if she’s unwell the people around her need to be protecting her ... I think everyone in the extended family is worried about approaching it, as may course a fall out.

If she is not unwell she should at least know the risks she’s taking but if I am to say anything people in here may know more than I do about what risks they actually are.

If they were pornographic they would be taken down on social media.

Its her body, and her choice. Assuming she doesn't live under a rock she will know about any potential dangers and will have done her own risk assessment.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult they are. I’m really surprised they haven’t been taken down. I guess someone would have to report them first?

@OfaFrenchmind2 Can we not use words like "Thot"? It is a horrible mysogynisti word and makes me think of greasy 21 year old knuckle dragging men hate wanking to instagram. Really disturbing to see it used (presumably) by a woman.

With all that said, I would be concerned too. There is not much you can do however. She is an adult and entitled to post what she wants. I would have a word but more along the lines of internet safety/future implications and maybe a gentle "are you all right". It would be hard not to come across as patronising. Definately dont call her a thot though (shudder).

Is she actually showing anything or just posing in thong provocatively? Pornography (where you actually flash your genitalia) isn’t allowed on social media and you could report it «sexy/sensual» pictures, where no genitalia or nipples are shown are though.

If the pictures are provocative and not just «I love my body» sensual pics, then I would of course be a little concerned as to why she thinks FB (assuming) is the right platform for that.

I know lots of girls who sell their pictures on OnlyFan and of course some post similar pictures on their profile but the majority of naked or near naked pictures on FB are usually sensual and in an «empowering» «learning to love my body» way. Rather than sexy in a provocative manner.

Though a woman on my feed changed her profile pic to a very provocative sexy picture of her self (which I find a -little- lot cringe) and her mom commented «so proud of you, looking so good love! x» which raised the cringe bar through the roof.

I just find the provocative posing on social media that isn’t aimed at that where you have your relatives and such completely cringe-worthy.

I don’t mind people having an OnlyFan and posting sexily on there though.

Her own business I guess providing she’s not vulnerable or has a mental illness or disability.

I think you’re being ridiculous and completely OTT - they clearly are NOT porno photos or else they wouldn’t be on social media.

Therefore you’re concerned because she’s posting provocative photos?
What does her being married and having 4 children have to do with it?

Please explain why she shouldn’t do this, if she wishes?

The woman can do whatever she likes, providing it is legal. People will judge though - for every batch of positive comments, there will be a couple of unaired judgy thoughts. Perhaps she DGAF about what others think though.

Of course, she might be simply attention seeking and if that's the case, think about why she is looking for validation. Doesn't she feel worthy at home? Does she perceive herself to be fat/ugly and is trying to feel better about herself?

Surely topless pics aren’t on the likes of Facebook and Instagram? It must be more suggestive than overtly pornographic?

Well I guess you can report the pics as inappropriate, she won’t know it’s you. It’s really weird that she’s positive provocative pictures knowing that her relatives can see them. I can’t imagine great aunt Mildred wants to see a pic of knockers.

I’m all for women being body positive, but I really don’t understand the need to flash yourself all over social media for the attention. It’s not classy. At all.

@GoddessKali I feel that it is relevant that she has children and is putting these sort of pictures of her out there for anybody to view. Rightly or wrongly there’s a good chance gossips at the school gates will catch on and if that had been my mum while I was at school I’d have been beyond mortified.

The photographs involve kinky gear... whips, leather bondage straps, photos are of her wearing thongs and nothing else, poses are squatting from behind and legs open. If pornographic is the wrong terminology then I apologise but I just don’t think it’s appropriate for social media.
I’m well aware that my distaste doesn’t matter and I can block her if I like but really feel uneasy for her sake and just wanted others opinions on whether my concerns are unfounded or not.
I’m not very upto speed in what goes on in the cyber world and wanted to know if by doing this she is putting herself at risk from things I don’t yet know about.

Wouldn’t photos like this harm some job prospects?

They sound pretty shit and not sure why people do this - but - they’re not pornographic.
There’s hundreds of companies that now do this and promote all over FB etc so perhaps she had a session done and this is where the pics have come from, or she’s taking them herself.

Yes, as you’ve stated and it’s obvious that anyone can see / share them.

But I still don’t really see why that’s your business or concerns you?
Women are topless and wear thongs on the beach. To be honest I really don’t get why people get so concerned, it’s a body, we all have one 🤷🏽‍♀️

None of your business

@Nursejackie1

Wouldn’t photos like this harm some job prospects?

Perhaps she doesn’t care or it doesn’t effect her?

My career is one that it wouldn’t impact me even if there was ever photos of me (not that there is!)

You just don't like her, do you OP.

Don't pretend it's concern for her children. Just admit you don't like it and you wanted to get people on here to agree with you.

@LucilleTheVampireBat that’s not it at all.
It’s not my cup of tea and it’s made alot of the older generation of the family feel uncomfortable and if I’m completely honest i think there are better places to put these sort of photos.
I do think it will be a problem for the kids at school if their friends get hold of the photos.
I won’t be saying anything ... that’s what I came on here to help me decide.

Is it out of character? I honestly would be worried for her mental health if it is.

Not being smart enough to realise that posting sexualised images on fb where all your elderly relatives are either means she was already a bit like this (and you’d know) or is a worrying development.

@2021namechanger I would say it’s out of character and I was half thinking along these lines too. I’d say it’s a possibility. Only problem is from the outside looking in it seems that nobody is stepping in to help if that’s what she needs and I can imagine if I brought it up it wouldn’t be very well received.