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MaMaD1990 · 16/03/2021 13:15

Take the day off...

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 16/03/2021 13:20

Of course they are not being unreasonable. If they didnt send her home then it could be explosive poos for another child and result in numerous other children and parents being off etc. It will be in your contract.

We manage it between us. Cancel non essential meetings. Try and rearrange others. Husband will start at 6.30am and work all morning and during her nap. I will work during her nap say from 1 til 6 then we will try and catch up in the evening. If one of us has an essential meeting then the other will cover. Set up the baby with iPad or whatever they are normally not allowed. Otherwise you take an emergency days holiday

CMOTDibbler · 16/03/2021 13:20

We used to tag team, and turns according to who had the most important meeting in that time slot

Marzipan12 · 16/03/2021 13:24

You really need a plan for how to tackle this in future because it certainly won't be a one off,;there's years of this. Some of us are tackling these situations as single parents with no local support, count yourself lucky there's 2 of you.

NeedaLittleNap · 16/03/2021 13:30

Also, unless there is a cast iron reason like one of you is a barrister, make sure you split the leave 50/50. If you don't start out like this, it's harder to even it up later.

I think of it that I owe it to my employer to make sure they are not disproportionately impacted by my lack of a penis.

SoCrimeaRiver · 16/03/2021 13:33

When they start school you need to stretch that annual leave between the cold / bugs / other kids being sent back to school before 48 hours are up germs and covering school holidays. Because of lockdown this summer will be the first year in 7 years our leave has stretched to a 14 day break, generally we can only get 7 days as a family and then one or the other takes other days as leave to cover childcare. You'll also find that "holiday clubs" have really helpful hours, like 9am - 3pm or 10am - 2pm, and don't offer anything like breakfast club.

TheJerkStore · 16/03/2021 13:34

One of us would take the day off.

This is a standard rule do you need to be prepared for it.

GreenHairThingy · 16/03/2021 13:35

What on earth does being professionals have to do with it?

You're working parents, you take the day off - sometimes unpaid (years of tonsil and ear infections, single parent, led to me having countless unpaid days off caring for sick DD)

MixedUpFiles · 16/03/2021 13:39

Where I am the rules are set by the health department so they apply from nursery all the way up through the school years and they are iron clad.

You just have to alternate days off. If you are lucky enough to have wfh as an option, As they get older you may be able to do a half day wfh that really takes you a full-day but at least you only have to use 1/2 a days leave. Eventually as long as they aren’t extremely ill, you can set them up with the tv and a nice drink to sip and wfh pretty well, but that is years away.

Potterythrowdown · 16/03/2021 13:40

Did you make sure to tell them about your professional jobs with lots of responsibilities?

One of you takes the day off, or you work round each other as best you can. You should probably be pleased that she's actually ok and you're not having to chair a meeting while cleaning liquid poo out of your rugs.

RoseLimeade · 16/03/2021 13:43

Also confused by the idea that being a professional automatically makes it more difficult to care for your child at short notice.

Can only speak for myself but it’s the opposite way around for me. In non professional jobs you were expected to be there no matter what and your personal life wasn’t relevant, no control over your diary or time really. Whereas in a professional role I’m valued much more highly as there aren’t plenty of people who can do what I do, so I’m afforded a greater amount of control over my time, have the authority to move things around and take care of my personal business.

The difference can be summed up in how I call in sick

Non professional job: hey, I’m so sorry but I can’t come in... you want me in anyway? I have a migraine I can’t drive safely... get a bus? You’ll be fucked if I don’t? You will stop giving me hours? Okay fine see you in a bit

Professional job: hey just letting you know I won’t be in today due to sickness, I’ll give you a call in the morning and let you know if I’ll be back in tomorrow, let my clients know please, thanks!

Asking permission versus letting them know.

Myglueattack · 16/03/2021 13:43

Eurgh, just keep your child off and look after your own child. You knew the rules when you enrolled them. Someone sent their child in with d&v when by ds was I. Nursery, he, my mum and I were so so ill, shitting and vomming for a week. Don't be selfish!

Kitkat151 · 16/03/2021 13:43

It’s a standard rule in schools and nurseries and most workplaces.....It’s a wonder you’ve not come across this before in one of ‘your professional jobs with lots of responsibilities’ 🙄

Rinoachicken · 16/03/2021 13:46

Er, welcome to parenthood?

Did you honestly not think about this before becoming parents?

If a child is ill, one of the parents will have to care for them. That’s part of being a parent.

Your job is irrelevant here.

And 48hrs is completely standard in nurseries and schools - otherwise it would be round the whole place within days - other kids sick, their parents also having to take time off or getting sick themselves, staff off sick etc.

TechnoDino · 16/03/2021 13:48

Well done for making it this far without having to deal with this common situation.

48 hours - after the last diarrhoea or vomiting - is absolutely standard, and if your child has a temperature or a viral rash or any childhood illness they will need to stay away from nursery or school.

It’s a pain, but welcome to the next 16 years of being a parent. Now would be a good time to agree an equal split of days off with your partner, so that your career doesn’t suffer whilst theirs is unscathed.

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lunepremiere79 · 16/03/2021 14:02

Yep, ok fully understand I am being unreasonable and thanks for the sense check. I am frazzled as I haven't slept and dealing with constant tantrums while trying to do some kind of work.. I didnt phrase it right, sorry. What I meant is I am in a job where you cant easily flex time between childcare and work (which I appreciate is the case for many types of jobs). I had jobs in the past where I could, but the mention of professional wasnt warranted, fair enough

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quizqueen · 16/03/2021 14:21

It's not a nursery rule or a school rule, it's a rule set by the Dept of Health. Do you want all the staff and other children infected by the runs!.

GrumpyHoonMain · 16/03/2021 14:25

@lunepremiere79

So my toddler (22months) dd got sent home from nursery after 3 loose poos and because her cheeks were flushed. Told to stay at home for 48 hours. Now she looks totally fine to us, happy, playing with her toys, dancing to music, laughing, normal temperature too 36.3 degrees. My dh and I work full time from home right now and in back to back meetings all day long in professional jobs with lots of responsibility and we are totally stuck, what do people typically do in this situation? We dont have any help nearby. Would hire someone to look after her or would you just take a day off? Are the nursery staff being unreasonable?

It’s a standard rule because a lot of parents are idiots and would otherwise send their kids in with all kinds of infectious illnesses. DN got a skin infection at nursery and was in hospital with it for nearly a week because one dad failed to mention his son was being treated for one. It took a nursery worker to spot the symptoms and raise the alarm - the whole nursery had to be closed and cleaned and this was before covid.

Brokenrecord3006 · 16/03/2021 14:28

Can you stick your toddler in front of the tv with a steady stream of snacks? My DS was that age when I worked from home full time in the 1st lockdown and it was just about manageable.

GoJetterGirl · 16/03/2021 14:28

Its parenthood,

So many people were inconsiderate enough to send their unwell children to school which in turn made my (unfortunately late) son so so Poorly and landed him in hospital as he was a cancer sufferer, along with myself as I have kidney issues... don’t be a douche, take annual leave and firm up plans for when this (inevitably) happens again in future!

mumwon · 16/03/2021 14:33

vivid memories of parent who I couldn't contact at work left dc pre-schooler with me (I was a cm) & didn't tell me they had been sick that morning -dc was sick about an hour after they had left & proceeded to have V&D next day I was ill so was my ds & I had to cancel other dc I cared for -I was not happy - tummy upsets can spread like wildfire through a setting but it also meant affecting other peoples childcare

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 16/03/2021 14:35

Can one of you work from home and keep an eye on baby? I wouldn’t do it on a regular basis but for the odd day...

macaronirabbit · 16/03/2021 14:40

Most settings have 48 hour rules although parents used to regularly abuse or try and get round them after diahorrea and vomitting.
My DD was sent home ffrom (secondary) school because she was sick once. She was fine by the time we got home but I assumed she should stay off for 48 hours and as school had a record that she had been sent home, I didn't call her in sick the next day. The school phoned and asked where she was. i told them I hadn't sent her in because she was sick the day before, and they siad they didn't have a 48 hour rule.

Sweettea1 · 16/03/2021 14:42

This is not just nursery rules this happens in schools aswell. You will have to take the day off.

Worknoplay · 16/03/2021 14:45

It's ok OP, loads of parents go through the same and it's frustrating, it's hard work, have a and a . Don't listen to all the MN who are unkind.