Neighbour throwing cat poo into my garden

[anticatwoman]

I think my cat hating neighbour has thrown bagged cat poo into my back garden. It would be cat poo from my cats who like to shit in her lovely lovely garden.

I have two children under three and we were playing in the garden this morning when I spotted the bag (looked like a fragranced sanitary bag) in the top corner of our garden filled with what is most definitely cat turds - although I couldn't confirm if they are from my cats of course.

We've lived here 3 years. Had cats for two. She's a proud gardener and my entitled cats love to shit in her vegetable patch and play on her lawn. I've seen her chasing them off/ throwing water at them, putting chicken wire and spikes on the fence to try and stop them getting over. They enjoy the challenge. If I see them in her garden I try to entice them back to mine with treats. As long as she isn't hurting them I don't mind her chasing them off. Not everyone loves cats and that's fine. It's complicated by the fact the old lady next door again loves my cats and frequently lets them in and spoils them. So our shared neighbour's garden is a passage way to tastier cat food and non stop affection.

My back fence is very tall and has no back access. It backs on to a main-ish road. After my back fence is a little stone wall about a metre tall which is filled with prickly blackberry bushes, then the path, then the road. My point being here is that if a dog walker was going to dump a bag of poo from the main road they could easily toss it into the blackberry bushes and not be noticed rather than throwing it miles over my fence to land in my garden. My other next door neighbour has a scary dog so my cats don't dare visit that garden.

I can't prove it's her but the fact that it's cat poo and where it's landed makes it quite probable. I have an indoor and outdoor litter tray but cannot control where they roam.

Whilst I sympathise it's annoying for her, I'm not breaking any law whereas I think she is by throwing things into my garden? If she's going to the trouble of bagging it why not just bin it instead of acting out of spite?

What should I do? Clear it up and forget it? Wait to see if more shows up? Loudly proclaim in the garden that I'm checking cctv for the culprit? Ask her directly? I've clearly and calmly explained to my cats not do do it anymore and am hopeful the message has got through.

Your cats have broken the law ha ha, but your cat hating neighbour is entitled to throw the cat poo back into your garden, as this is how she chooses to deal with things that she doesn't like. Better bagged up, than just shoveling it up,and winging it all back into your garden.

Assuming this is a reverse: it's passive aggressive to throw it back over, bagged or not. I think talking to your neighbour about it is the best thing to do.

I have this problem too. If I wanted to pick up poo I would of got an animal myself but I don't. Why should your neighbour have to deal with your cats poo. And it isn't just the poo, I have cats dig up my flowers and my veg, destroying them. Thsts money and time I spent!

I've also had a cat be sick all over the paving stones and had to jet wash it off.

I dont and tour neighbour doesn't have time for all this destruction.

Go apologise and cat proof your garden so they cannot leave. Pay her everythime her veg and flowers are destroyed because why should she have to keep forking out to replace them.

I've had to put slate down all over my flower beds to minimise the digging and crapping in my flowers. I shouldn't have to spend money doing that.

I'm here for the bun fight!

So amazed by these responses. V. Passive aggressive of her she should have just come and spoken to you. Try and resolve the issue but pretty impossible to stop outdoor cats pooing outside. It’s not a dog!
Don’t own a cat but used to. Have a TONNE of cats that poo in my garden tho!

You're a horrible person and she's at her wits end.

Has to be a plopper or a reverse.

Shes a dickhead, but theres nothing you can really do as obviously she is fed up of catshit

Apologise for the fact your cats are causing her a nuisance? Offer to buy a sonic deterrent? Offer to come in and clear up the shit yourself?

This.

Most people will have cats, foxes, hedgehogs shitting in their garden and it can’t always be helped but it isn’t nice and it can spread diseases. I would be thankful that she isn’t the type to harm them. I have two cats myself so I am not anti cat.

How would you even stop your cats pooing in her garden? How ridiculous of her to throw it over the fence. How does she even know it’s your cat?

I would get a ring doorbell and then press charges for malicious mischief against her.

My best friend has 5 cats and is the biggest cat lover in the world. Shes spoken to her neighbours and told them if there is every any poo in their garden, drop her a watts app msg and she will nip and pick them up. She also bought her two neighbours little greenhouses as the cats kept digging their plants up. You are 100 percent in the wrong here

At least she's bagging it up instead of randomly throwing them everywhere. If you think it's simple enough for her to bin it, you do it yourself.

@CayrolBaaaskin

How would you even stop your cats pooing in her garden? How ridiculous of her to throw it over the fence. How does she even know it’s your cat?

I would get a ring doorbell and then press charges for malicious mischief against her.

How about spending money on those plastic spikes on tops of fences or other deterrents to reduce them going over. Why should the neighbour have to pay to stop them coming in.

Why should the neighbour have to put up with buying plants and veg only for them to be destroyed the next day? Would you be happy spending money on plants and then the next day they are ripped up and destroyed? Might as well go flush that money down the toilet.

Be grateful she's bagged it up for you. If you were my neighbour, you might not be so lucky. I certainly wouldn't want a bin full of your cat's poop. I hate entitled cat owners who think allowing their animals to crap in other people's gardens in acceptable. Take some responsibility for your own pets.

@CayrolBaaaskin

How would you even stop your cats pooing in her garden? How ridiculous of her to throw it over the fence. How does she even know it’s your cat?

I would get a ring doorbell and then press charges for malicious mischief against her.

Charges for what? What law is that?

Cat shit is disgusting, full of germs and an absolute fucking pain if you don’t have a cat but still have to clean up a dozen cat turds every week, as indeed I do.

I think your neighbour would be very reasonable. Be grateful it was bagged.

OP not been back? Shocked I tell you!

Op will not be back.

Caught my neighbour in the garden right after I posted and asked her very politely if she had got cross and thrown some cat poo back into my garden in a bag. She got a bit flustered and red and admitted that she had as she's fed up of finding cat poo everywhere.

I said I can't control it but would happily form a united front to dissuade them from going over. We've agreed on a bit of trellis on the only cat scalable part of the fence. I'll pay for that and she can do her gardening magic with some cat repellent plant.

She's then just knocked on my door with some daffy's from her garden and said sorry...to me. Aside from my rude cats we do actually chat over the fence and our husbands play cricket together sometimes.

Had I waited for the advice of MN I'd be posting letters through every door on the road by now offering to pick up poo on behalf of all the cat owners in the vicinity as a previous dog owner I always picked up poo when out but cats are a different beast.

@bamboothrough

I’ve got a cat and I wouldn’t mind my neighbour throwing it back (bagged)

Sorry made me laugh...hope the poo not the cat in the bag. Op..suspect a reverse but yabvvvu. Cat poo is awful and we struggled with it.

You're attitude is out of order OP.
You obviously don't realise you're in the wrong here. You should apologise to her and sort out this cat's issue.

My entire sympathy is with your neighbour. If I were her, I don’t think I would have politely bagged it, I would have taken a shovel and tossed it back over your fence.

Offer to go and pick it up yourself rather than have bags thrown over the fence.

Your cat shits in my garden too right you'll get it returned ,nobody wants cat shit in their garden if they don't own a cat.

You should also offer to pay for any other cat-repelling paraphernalia she might need. It’s the right thing to do. I feel so sorry for your neighbour, she sounds lovely and the fact she’s resorted to throwing it over the fence probably shows she’s at the absolute end of her tether.