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Miserable mother’s day

41 replies

Patriciathestripper1 · 15/03/2021 14:32

We never really do anything on Mother’s Day usually, just breakfast in bed watch a film and have a takeaway.
This mothers day my daughter did me breakfast in bed I opened prezzies and got flowers and got up to go over to the stables to do the horses.. a friend txt to see if she could pop down for a horse related chat so I said yes and she stayed for about an hour and a half.

My husband dislikes this woman so he stayed at the house.
When I got back he was furious saying how I’d spoilt their (him and my daughters) surprise. He pulled a bag of cakes out of the cupboard and tipped them on the table saying this is what we had got and I shouldn’t have invited her here on Mother’s Day ect ect as it’s a family day and how he had planned to do me a special afternoon tea and I’d ruined it for them as they were going to suprise me with it.
I had no idea that he was going to do that and he made me feel totally rubbish to the point of crying and he said I had to apologise to him and our daughter for inviting her over and ruining their suprize. I’m still upset today thinking about it.

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Patriciathestripper1 · 15/03/2021 18:47

I wasn’t complaining Shock I loved the first part of the day

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greatauntfanny · 15/03/2021 20:39

@Joinedjustforthispost

He sounds ott in his silly reaction but you sound kind of ungrateful complaining about your crappy day, breakfast in bed with presses, a nice day relaxing watching a movie followed by a takeaway? I feel sorry some ops post on here not getting a lie in or breakfast in bed or a card or even the day acknowleged.
This is one of the stupider comments I've read on this site.
EternalOptimist7 · 15/03/2021 23:40

Hope you’re feeling better OP. Have you managed to talk to your DH about yesterday?

imalmostthere · 15/03/2021 23:55

@Joinedjustforthispost

He sounds ott in his silly reaction but you sound kind of ungrateful complaining about your crappy day, breakfast in bed with presses, a nice day relaxing watching a movie followed by a takeaway? I feel sorry some ops post on here not getting a lie in or breakfast in bed or a card or even the day acknowleged.
Ungrateful for being yelled at?? Ok then. What a stupid comment.
ASimpleLampoon · 16/03/2021 06:07

It's not about the cakes. He is really mad about the friend and you being out of the house. Is it the only friend he "disapproves" of or is he isolating you from others too? He sounds abusive. He made things nasty for your dc not you. This is not your fault. There was plenty of time to have an afternoon tea a d he chose to ruin the day. If this is part of a pattern of behaviour please contact women's aid and discuss your situation.

ChameleonClara · 16/03/2021 06:11

Oh dear. He sounds really quite dreadful. Sorry you had such a shit day, it really wasn't your fault Flowers

Patriciathestripper1 · 16/03/2021 08:25

Thank you all. I did broach the subject with him again yesterday. In his mind I spoiled it not only for him but for our daughter who wanted to do something nice. He said he was annoyed that I let this woman come down when it should have been a family day which his adamant that I spoiled, but yes I do think a lot of it is control but he said he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. Looking at it now and reading your comments has made me feel stronger so thank you all x

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HikingInTheHills · 16/03/2021 08:33

What a nasty loser he is.

TheWernethWife · 16/03/2021 08:37

FFS OP, what a tosser he is and what a bloody example he is giving to the DC.

Shout and tant so mum won't dare have a friend over, he'll be starting on the kids next with any of their friends he doesn't approve of.

purplecorkheart · 16/03/2021 08:48

How does he get on with your family and other friends?

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 16/03/2021 08:50

How on earth can someone be mad about a surprise you knew nothing about? If it was a family day then surely they would have gone to the stables with you? A family day doesnt have to mean spending 100pc of the day together (unless you are out of the day obviously). Agree there is something else going on here. You could have had lovely cakes as part of your dinner. He could have said 'hurry back we have something nice planned'. What an arse

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 16/03/2021 08:51

And now he doesnt want to talk about it any more. Well that's nice after blowing up at you for nothing, ruining your day

leafygarden42 · 16/03/2021 08:53

I don’t actually think he likes any of my friends at all.

Somehow I don't think the problem is with your friends.

The problem is your husband is a massive twat.

How old is your daughter?

leafygarden42 · 16/03/2021 08:56

@Joinedjustforthispost

Grin Grin Grin

And the award for completely missing the point goes to....

IloveJudgeJudy · 16/03/2021 09:02

He spun a bit like my father was. He spoiled every occasion, especially if DM was supposed to be the centre of attention. He did anything to cause a row, including telling us children off to upset us which would obviously upset DM.

Please don't put up with this. We all wish DM had left him. He didn't improve with age ☹️

IloveJudgeJudy · 16/03/2021 09:03

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