Not sure what to think of this ?

[Askingforafriend1997]

Asking for a friend as she's asked my advice and not sure what to suggest really.
So my friend visited her father in law today ( they are in a support bubble ) and my friends little boy aged 4 pushed his little brother aged 2 off the stairs. So my friend said to the 4 year old ( her child ) to face the wall and not look at the tv or toys was only for a few minutes, but when they left father in law phoned my friends partner ( his son ) and said to tell her don't fucking tell him to face the wall and don't fucking do that in my house again - not really sure what to think surely it's none of his business and she should parent how she sees fit

Can anyone help? Xx

It’s not the way I’d parent but the FIL sounds a right charmer!

Why was a two year old left unsupervised on stairs?

So she put him in a time out. Not a big deal really (unless the 4 year old became distressed by it). They do time outs like this sometimes in schools.

He wasn't unsupervised he was only on the bottom step with my friend next to him.
My friend doesn't want to visit again
What would you advise to do?

If it was me I'd be telling DP to tell FiL that fine, I won't be bringing the children to his place again. Sounds like a win/win to me.

@AcrossthePond55

If it was me I'd be telling DP to tell FiL that fine, I won't be bringing the children to his place again. Sounds like a win/win to me.

This. Did the FIL know what had happened?

@AcrossthePond55

If it was me I'd be telling DP to tell FiL that fine, I won't be bringing the children to his place again. Sounds like a win/win to me.

Exactly, that’s nice and simple tbh

My friend doesn't want to visit again

Do exactly that.

Two men certainly wouldn't be discussing my parenting over my head and getting the pleasure of my company again.

No wasn't two men Arguing, the fil phoned up his son and had a go at him over it xx

Wow! Mumsnet classic reply on the first response .."why was a two year old unsupervised on the stairs" when no where does it say they were unsupervised and the comment completely misses the point of the op!

op, the FIL sounds like a dickhead. Ignore and move on.

He probably has memories of being made to stand in a corner and sees it as abuse. All it needs is a conversation about time out to explain and if reasonable and story is how you say without any other drama or distressing crying fine but if not don't take child round there or come up with a mutually agreeable time out or other solution. It is his house and if child was sobbing I can quite see his point of view