Kids not even said happy Mother's Day

[rabbitandsquirrel]

To feel incredibly hurt, my 2 daughter haven't even said Happy Mother's Day to me let alone made me a cup of tea. Yes they knew, I got a card from the dog Walker from my dog. My youngest made a card at school - she's in primary.
My son's friend felt so shit about his lack of effort he bought me a card and dropped it around for my son to give me.

This only 2 months after they didn't bother with my birthday either.

Feeling particularly shit and lonely.

Single mum btw and no other parent to remind them. But kids are mid to late teens (except little one who has bothered- made me potion and a card).

I am really sorry OP - happy Mother’s Day to you! 🍰💐🍾

Teenagers are selfish little horrors sometimes - I think you have to tell them quite bluntly they need to step up. Can you get someone - your mum or sister to make sure they acknowledge you on these days?

Same here. I supervised the kids making cards for their granny yesterday. They are old enough to make one for me. They didn’t. Really hurt and disappointed and going to bed now.

Same here

Nothing said no card nothing as he really cba

I’m upset with myself for bringing up such a self-centred child

My eldest (19) sorted it out for younger two this year. Up to this year, my hubby sorted it. My just teen daughter is usually better, but not this year. Middle child proper silky teen boy reminiscent of Kevin (and Perry!).
The only reason my hubby does it is because I remind him to sort out something for his mum!
So even in Mother's Day, it's the mum that takes the lead!

Gather them and tell them you feel hurt. It's the only way they'll get it!!

That’s a bit shit OP sorry.

Are they normally like that? As in, would they make you a cup of tea or offer to do something nice to help you out on a regular day? If not then I guess it’s an issue that needs addressing outside of Mother’s Day and all that entails.

My kids didn’t do much - my DP (doesn’t live with us) offered to help them buy me something and they both said yes but couldn’t think of anything, so didn’t bother!

However, they have made me cups of tea, one offered to walk to the supermarket and buy croissants etc for breakfast and they are generally pretty helpful, so I don’t feel hard done by.

If yours are usually helpful and kind I would let it slide but maybe next year set an expectation that you’d like them to do something to show their appreciation like you do for their special days. If they’re not so helpful normally then I guess it isn’t a surprise that they’ve been thoughtless today and you maybe need that same conversation, but based around their day to day behaviour.

have some Mother’s Day goodies from me xx

I normally get lots of words - 'can I help', 'can I do anything' but it never seems to come to fruition. If I ever ask for any help I get humphing and eye rolling.
When it comes to their siblings birthdays they throw themselves into it, going off their own backs to get each other something.
At Christmas they make an effort with me.
But nope they just don't seem fazed.
Just had one of my sons friend knock on the door to say happy Mother's Day to my second mum thanks for all you do for us.

I didn't even get a text/ Snapchat / WhatsApp- and they're always on their phones!

Are you going to discuss it with them? Nothing will change if you don't.

I can empathise with how you feel. I have two sons, one who is severely disabled so is unaware that it’s Mother’s Day, my other son did get me a card and a magazine about cross stitch even though I’ve never cross stitched in my life, I’m not being ungrateful to be honest, I laughed and gave him a huge hug, it’s no reflection on how good a mother you are, it’s best to try and rise above it. My own mother wasn’t a good mother and all four of use used to spoil her rotten, no idea why!

@Whatapalavaa

Are you going to discuss it with them? Nothing will change if you don't.

Yes I think I will have to. There no excuse for not even making a cup of tea or even a hug. The only thing ons of them has said to me today whilst I boiled the kettle was 'can I have a cup of tea'.

For all of us mum's who didn't get anything 'Happy Mothers Day'
Much love to you all xx

How is your relationship with them both in general you say they are both young adults?

Not a mention here either - oh, apart from talking about her friend who had been baking something special for her mum for mother's day...