Am I being a psycho girlfriend?

[Couch2Potato]

Previously my OH (not married) has shown an annoyance that I don't show enough interest in him sexually (another story)..
So this morning I woke up and thought we could fool around a bit, and he was interested.. obviously.

He said a couple of things during in a rude tone. In hindsight, I overreacted. He just said "I'm cold, put the covers back on", "I want X or do X". It's really not what he said but how said.
So I stopped what I was doing and I asked if I had stopped and I replied yeah then laid on his chest. And he got up, pushing me out of way and put his boxers back on.

I came back upstairs 15 minutes later and explained that I didn't want to start the day off on the wrong foot, I overeacted but I felt he was being rude. He said he didn't understand how he was being rude, followed by him staring at me or saying "okay", or saying nothing and scrolling at his phone.

I called him out for not saying anything and he said he "nothing to say", so then dropped his phone and just stared at me.

I tried continuing the conversation and he said he felt I was being superior to him.. something that I (and his ex) have previously said to him.

He said it felt like I initiated sex only to stop to annoy him, which completely shocked me. I got into bed for a cuddle and he said he loved me, kissed me on the head etc.

When I went to get up, he asked "are you going to be like this all day" and I just explained that he can't continue to talk to me in a rude way. He talks aggressively in a superior manner, and it makes me feel scared of him.

He didn't really have anything to say to that.

My mind always goes blank and I have nothing left to say, I get confused and upset. I completely get that I overreacted but I'm just sick of him talking to me in this rude, aggressive way. Even the simplest of sentences sound rude to me but when he presses for information, my brain stops working..

He has two kids that come over every other weekend, and I hate the way he talks to them too.

He always calls out that I blame him for everything when we argue and guilt trips me. But, I mean, it is his fault...

I think you’re confused becuse you are in a relationship with this man and you don’t like some of his behaviour. You need to think about what you’re getting from the relationship and why you are in it.
Doesn’t sound great tbh.

I don't think you said anything wrong. He implied that you haven't cleaned and you then proved him wrong. He then backtracked because he was obviously wrong and has turned it back on you. I couldn't be bothered to watch every word I say in case he has a meltdown.

Bloody hell this is exhausting (and confusing!) to read! I couldn't be bothered with all of that nonsense OP! Move on 🤷‍♀️

You aren't very nice to each other. Get used to it or end it. I think there's a danger you will always feels victimised every time you have a fall out and then it's hard not to carry that throughout the relationship.

Is this really how you want the rest of your life to be, he's deliberately misconstruing what you say to cause arguments. Just reading your OP is exhausting. Also, ask yourself if you want to be with someone who can't even talk to his own children without being arsey.
He sounds like a giant dick.

@boredinthouse

I'm not sure what's going on here but it sounds really dramatic on both sides. Can you really be bothered with this hassle forever?

Same. Relationships are supposed to be fun.

Both of your behaviour is really strange and dramatic. You started being sexual, he said he was cold, you lay your head on his chest and played dead, he asked 'wtf?', you left the room, came back to tell him what was wrong, he ignored you then stared at you intensely, then you cuddled and said you loved each other, then he got moody again. Every single action there was bizarre.

Honestly, it's unhealthy. Why bother?

OP you say you love him but I’m not sure that really matters here as it sounds like he treats you like shit.

He sounds like hassle at the very least.

Also, what do you love about him? His kindness, the way he treats others, his generosity?

You sound as bad as each other to be honest. I'm exhausted just reading it all.

Do you want to be iwht someone who is rude to you, and to his children - with the implication he will be rude to your children if you have them?

You also seem to have a really unhealthy dynamic going on where you punish him for being rude rather than calling him out on it at the time. Not that it will solve things, because he's clearly horrible, but it will make this more clear.

But as others say, this is exhausting, endless game-playing drama, and I can't see why you would want to carry on with it.

Is this how you dreamed your life would go when you were a little girl? You won't change him, so either accept he's a rude argumentative shit that you are staying with for whatever reason ('love' isn't that reason, love can let go when it affects your own well-being), or end it. Anything else is just asking for more drama.