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Original poster

To think you shouldn't be having a garden party?

38 replies

WinnieTigger · 13/03/2021 23:27

Mil is planning a birthday garden party in mid April with a gazebo and party picnic type food with at least 6 different households attending. AIBU to think you shouldn't be breaking the rules that much and having a party with people from 6 different households in April?

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BackforGood · 13/03/2021 23:29

Of course YANBU,
however, it seems there are far too many posters on the other thread running at the moment (asking if people are following the rules) that disagree with me completely and agree with your MiL.

Sadly

malificent7 · 13/03/2021 23:35

Yanbu...can't they wait till June?

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WinnieTigger · 13/03/2021 23:37

She is also trying to guilt us into going. But I don't want to be apart of it

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WinnieTigger · 13/03/2021 23:39

malificent7 this is really outting, but she is moving house in June and they want one last family party get together before they go. Which seems like quite a selfish reason to me

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 14/03/2021 09:51

I wouldn’t be going and if DH went he would be staying elsewhere for two weeks as a minimum.

She’s not the only one though sadly, plenty are already breaking the rules and more will follow I suspect.

HedgeOwl · 14/03/2021 09:53

YANBU in any way, unless they have a huge garden keeping 2m from everyone will mean you’ll all have to shout at each other! Suggest you drop in before everyone else arrives or just don’t go

SandlakeRd · 14/03/2021 09:55

I thought the rule of 6 in the garden applies by mid April? Have I got that wrong?

2pinkginsplease · 14/03/2021 09:55

No she shouldn’t be having a party however many people have been.

Personally we would decline.

All dh’s brothers and sisters and families visited mil at Christmas time, we didn’t, then again she never thanked us for her present either! 😱😱

She is vulnerable health wise and isn’t comprehending why we are staying away

ThisIsMeOrIsIt · 14/03/2021 09:58

It depends how many people and where they live, I suppose. You're allowed 6 people outside from 29th March in England.

3WildOnes · 14/03/2021 10:00

I think this would be legal after the 17th of May. Could she wait until then?
It wouldn’t particularly bother me. I won’t be hosing anything like this until it is legal to do so though.

GabriellaMontez · 14/03/2021 10:10

When you say 'breaking the rules that much'' What do you mean? Do you stick to all the rules or not?

peak2021 · 14/03/2021 10:37

Moving house in June. So a party can be in late May, when the weather is warmer, subject to the rules of the time.

YANBU.

TheRaccoon · 14/03/2021 10:45

You’re allowed 30 outside from 17th May, 6 outside from end of this month.

I can see why people are getting frustrated now but for the sake of a month I wouldn’t risk being reported and getting a fine!

supersonicginandtonic · 14/03/2021 10:48

I don't see what difference it makes to gojng and sitting in a beer garden to be honest. You can do that form the 12th next month and they will be busy. It's outdoors, risk is minimal.

RuggeryBuggery · 14/03/2021 10:56

With current rates change massively I would be fine with this personally
Especially if the majority of the guests are of an age that means they will have been vaccinated
I think if you don’t feel comfortable that’s fine but it should be up to individuals.

Changeisneeded · 14/03/2021 10:59

I wouldn’t be going unless you could afford the fine as if I am reading it right with 6 families attending all outside there will be a number of people there which may attract attention and someone reporting it (can she afford the £10000 fine?)

As others have said when restrictions open up more or if there were 6 people there then I’d go.

Donotfeedthebears · 14/03/2021 10:59

You don’t need to go but I can’t bring myself to care about people having a garden party. Outdoor transmission rates are tiny.

ElderMillennial · 14/03/2021 11:01

Agree. I think some people think that because they're outside it's no risk or less of a risk but they don't factor in people passing cutlery, plates and cups, or going inside to use the bathroom, or generally being close even if outside.

Say you are not going because it's against the rules.

PammieDooveOrangeJoof · 14/03/2021 11:01

This is allowed from the end of this month. Rule of 6 outside including private gardens.

NormanStangerson · 14/03/2021 11:03

Just don’t go.

I can’t wait until threads like these are a thing of the past.

NoSquirrels · 14/03/2021 11:04

@PammieDooveOrangeJoof

This is allowed from the end of this month. Rule of 6 outside including private gardens.
But there won’t be six people, there will be sux households. So not allowed until mid May.
minniemoocher · 14/03/2021 11:20

It's rule of six isn't it? So 6 is fine (or two households)

giletrouge · 14/03/2021 11:36

So many people don't read posts properly - 6 households ffs, not 6 people. So easily 20 people if not more.

LindaEllen · 14/03/2021 11:40

@SandlakeRd

I thought the rule of 6 in the garden applies by mid April? Have I got that wrong?
That would be six people, though, not six families like OP says is being planned for this party.
WeAllHaveWings · 14/03/2021 11:43

If it is outside the guidance at the time, I would decline the invitation, tell them (and any other family that asks) why and then leave them to it.