To expect to be able to trust my family

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I have a situation happening to me which I have shared with my mum and my sister and stressed that it is a private matter and I don't want anyone else to know. They have both told people.

This is the second time this has happened with my sister.

I feel extremely hurt and have lost trust in them but they both seem to think I'm being unreasonable to be angry. They said they have apologised so that should be the end of it but I feel totally betrayed that they have told my secrets.

I suppose that asking them to keep a biggish secret was putting too much pressure on them, but AIBU?

No you aren't being unreasonable, but you know what they are like now, so don't tell them anything else you don't want sharing with the family gossip circle. I have the same in my family. It's annoying but some people just can't help themselves and think of it that I'm "only" telling xyz and they are fine to decide who to trust with your secrets. You won't change them so act accordingly.

It’s not al all unreasonable for you to be upset. Don’t fall out with them, but definitely don’t tell them your secrets again.

It depends what you told them. They are both people close to you, could it be that they were upset by what you told them and needed to talk about it with someone? Or do you feel like they were just gossiping?

YANBU, but you know who they are. Stop telling them stuff.

My grandmother was incapable of keeping a secret so I stopped telling her stuff.

People are who they are.

Understand completely. My DM and DGM are exactly like this. They'll "only tell close friends". I agree you should stop telling them things, but I also know it's tough when you just want to talk to your Mum. Hope you're ok OP.

I wouldn't trust the members of my family as far as I could throw them.

Do t tell the, anything else - they obviously cannot be trusted and think you are a legitimate source of gossip for them.
I'd be livid if it happened to me.