I need people's views on this. When we first got together my now DH and I both had existing relationships. After a few months together he insisted I stopped all communications with my ex, which I did - blocked on MSN etc. He offered to do the same with his - which I thought was fair so said yes. My problem is that although he has indeed gone for long periods without contact he has still reneged on this agreement several times over the last few years - including unblocking her when he had previously blocked her. He sometimes tells me voluntarily, but every time it happens I get hurt and upset and so he stops it. It seems to always happen again eventually, though. AIBU getting upset about this? It's as much the principle that I'm upset at more than the chat itself - from what I have seen it's not flirty or anything.