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To wish I’d bought an expensive pram?

274 replies

pramenvy20 · 12/03/2021 06:40

Before I had my baby I looked at the price of prams and thought how silly it was to spend that amount, and I bought a second hand one.

I regret it now so much. I saw a woman yesterday just park, get the frame from the boot and attach her car seat to it without disturbing her baby. No fuss or faff!

Mine is fine so I’ll probably vote that I am BU because I am ... but I wish I’d bought a really lovely pram!

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makingitupaswegoon · 12/03/2021 08:53

Best thing we did was go to a specialist baby / pram shop and try prams. The one I had my heart on (on paper) was uncomfortable to push and didn't work for DH because of the bar between the wheels. So ended up going for something completely different (although travel system). But there were a couple of annoyances (i.e. brake on one wheel only), difficult for parents to fold so I agree with PP who said there is always something you have to compromise on

user1471464218 · 12/03/2021 08:55

If your frame is stiff to put up/ down it either needs oiled and cleaned or it's knackered.

I bought expensive prams that suited my needs well. I walked a lot and don't regret a penny.

If you can afford a different pram, get one.

RichTeaCheddars · 12/03/2021 08:57

I have a £500 silver cross from John Lewis Vs the £800-1000 Silver Cross ones. Car seat is extra and you can get adapters to attach a car seat. You can also buy adapters to fit non silver cross car seats to it
I didn't get the car seat adapters. 9 months in and I've only thought twice that it would have been handy.
Very happy with the travel system I bought :-)

JanewaysBun · 12/03/2021 08:57

Get a second hand one!

I have an Icandy double, paid £200 and it's in great condition, my ideal colours etc.

I find prams which are easy to push/streamlined are worth it but I live in London so walk everywhere and have to navigate tiny spaces

user1493494961 · 12/03/2021 08:59

Prams nowadays all look the same to me.

PositiveNegative · 12/03/2021 08:59

Haven't RTFT.

I hear you OP.

10 years on I wished I bought the expensive pram too.

I compromised, bought one in the sale, it wasn't really what I wanted, it was awkward, I switched to a Mclaren stroller as soon as I could.

Used it again for DC but still regret now not getting the one I wanted as I think that I would have got out more and enjoyed those trips out too!!

Norwaydidnthappen · 12/03/2021 09:00

I spent about £600 in total on our double pram including accessories like the footmuffs and rain cover. It obviously isn’t as expensive as some double prams like the bugaboo donkey which is double the cost! But it works well and it’s super slim so it fits through most gaps a single pram would. I’m glad we have it, it’s the first brand new pram I’ve owned. I only ever had second hand bugaboo cameleons in the past which were always great tbf.

ZenNudist · 12/03/2021 09:01

I got a bugaboo new for £800 10 years ago, then car seat was maxi cosi plus other bits prob cost £1000 total. I had friends with the same set up who spent £200 ish then got a separate car seat and spent much less than half what I did.

Why dont you buy the pram you like second hand. Sell yours to fund that and get adapters that fit your car seat to your new pram? Unless you didn't buy maxi cos I then you might have to get a new car seat.

Frankly I've had friends use my car seats second hand and used my seat for more than one dc. So I think its a bit over cautious but I can see why you'd want to follow that advice.

If you having second child its worth it.

Lockdowntherabbithole · 12/03/2021 09:02

OP- if it’s the convenience of the car seat going straight onto the base... can I recommend the Doona. It’s a car seat that has a lever that you pull and the wheels pop out of the bottom. I’ve got one and it’s a total game changer. Wish I’d had it with my first. (Not read the other comments so someone may have replied to you about these). They’re about £279 which isn’t cheap but it’s been the best purchase for us.

Forevernamechange12333333 · 12/03/2021 09:02

@pramenvy20 my pram is an easy one and didn’t cost the earth. You can put the car seat directly into the pram etc and it’s dead easy. I got it from the mamas and papas factory outlet in Huddersfield. Have a look on their Facebook page.. my pram brand new in their shop was about 800/900 got the frame for 100 and the seat for 150 plus 10 for the adapters

WineInTheWillows · 12/03/2021 09:02

I get it, OP. I did get the expensive pram (now on our second baby with it, still love it) but we didn't pay the £130 for an isofix base for the car seat, deciding to belt it in instead. I regret it so much! Especially now we've got two and I'm having to fanny around with a seatbelt twice in the space of five minutes when dropping my eldest off at nursery. Youngest DC should be our last and is already five months old, so it's probably not worth getting the base now, but if I could go back to that initial decision, I'd definitely change it.

Thesearmsofmine · 12/03/2021 09:06

My pram was free(second hand) and used for all 3dc, it did the job but was a bit cumbersome compared to some others and I would maybe have liked a fancier one at the time but really it doesn’t matter.
I am a big fan of slings but for periods of time I was unable to use due to having had a c section, I hate it when people try to get competitive over not owning a pram!

silverbubbles · 12/03/2021 09:07

I had a expensive pram but its one of those things, unless you do alot of walking, is probably a waste of money. Just think about the savings you have made. there will be lots more expenses to come......

2021WillBeGreat · 12/03/2021 09:07

I am considering this at the moment. Quite frankly there are so many good second hand deals to be had there is no way I'll spending more than £300 for a pram that retails £700 to £900 depending on specifications.

If you're really unhappy you could probably sell yours on for £100 and get something second hand for £200.

3littleowls · 12/03/2021 09:08

I really understand OP about how nice it is to have something brand new for your baby and feel like you’ve got something that works well and is smart. Lots of secondhand prams are in great condition though so I agree with PP saying look into secondhand. I bought secondhand for my first baby’s pram. Part of the reason they’re often great condition secondhand is because they’re not useful for that long. Bassinets are redundant at around 6 months and sometimes less. In the long run, once your baby is in and out of a buggy all the time and wanting to toddle, the pram you had really won’t matter at all, I promise. You’ll be running around after your toddler and just wanting a buggy that folds up easily and is lightweight enough to push in a hurry Smile

3WildOnes · 12/03/2021 09:12

Second hand prams are really good value. I bought an Icandy and a bugaboo secondhand for less than £200.

WombatChocolate · 12/03/2021 09:13

I suppose the pramis what people see and people want to project a certain image (or aren’t bothered) about themselves, their family and their parenting. That’s what a lot of it is about.

It’s something very visual, when the tiny baby is tide can’t really be seen. Actually, as lots of people say, much cheaper or as can often be found which have the various fittings of the more expensive ones. So it’s possible to get whatever style (bassinet, something that clips on, things that mean baby isn’t disturbed etc etc) at a range of price points. But some brands are very recognisable and that is important for lots of people.

It’s especially important for lots of people with firstborns. Having. Baby brings out all kinds of insecurities in people and being able to walk down the street with the bugaboo, saying to the world, ‘I chose this as the best and I can afford the best and I’m THIS kind of parent and person’ is a powerful pull to lots of people, even if they won’t admit it, or don’t even realise it in themselves.

My parents offered us a new bugaboo with all the bits. I chose instead to have £1.5k for the baby’s bank account and bought a second hand system for £150 which had the fabric of 3-4 years previous. And then I had a McClaren stroller from about 6-8 months, because you could fold them one handed and lob them in the boot or take them on a plane and to be honest, they were the hero pushchairs, because they were so easy and versatile.

But I love second hand. I bought almost everything second hand for the baby and I buy refurnished electricals now and am tuned off by branding, whether it’s via a big logo or more subtle. But perhaps it’s easy for me to say that, because I could afford the expensive versions if I chose them...it’s just I don’t choose them.

In the end though, if there are the occasional items that you would really really love, I think it’s good to treat yourself if they will bring you vast pleasure. But for me, that really is about the very occasional. Lots of people have a sense they need the very expensive branded version of lots of things....and that loses the focus to me. I’ve know people have the bugaboo and it didn’t bring them enormous pleasure....they would admit there might have been others out there that’s eve better in a various ways, or that it wasn’t always the most practical or storable, but they coveted one and they loved it when they had it. One friend paid an extra. £200 for the fabric she loved....she knew it was daft, but she loved it and it’s colour so much and it gave her £200 of pleasure without a doubt. So, only you can know if this thing really matters to you....it might well be a bit shallow, but you’re allowed a bit shallow over a few things I think.

But it’s very true that 3 years beyond the baby phases of their lives, most parents will say they bought lots of things they didn’t need and were suckered in by the baby marketing machine...so bear that in mind too. And for lots, not having that expensive roam might mean they’d an stay off work for another month with their baby....that might put it in perspective for some.

ChancesWhatChances · 12/03/2021 09:14

I get it, I had second hand prams for all of mine because I refused to pay hundreds for a brand new one. I couldn’t see any justification for it, the second hand ones I found were in brilliant condition.

But bloody hell I was green with envy when I would go into baby groups and see fancy prams that could be put together in seconds or moved from using it to putting baby in the car without a problem.

But not spending hundreds on a pram meant I could spend more on another things they needed (Best Buy being the baby swing that rocked itself and was the only thing that put an extremely colicky baby to sleep for 3 months!)

Aimee1987 · 12/03/2021 09:17

Can I ask what pram it is. I'm very surprised you cant attach the car seat to it.
I bought an uppababy second hand for 150 quid, bought my car seat separately (new). My uppababy didnt cone with adapters to attach the 2 but they were easily purchased separately for around 20 quid.

It sounds line you just bought the wrong pram for your needs, why cant you sell it and buy a different brand second hand.

3AndStopping · 12/03/2021 09:18

I just got a icandy peach double travel system second hand for £80!

2x seats
1x car seat
1x carry cot!

They’re out there OP.

pramenvy20 · 12/03/2021 09:18

I can’t really afford one just now aimee Smile

Just wish I’d said sod it when I was working and splashed out!

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WombatChocolate · 12/03/2021 09:19

And yes there’s a huge second hand market in the top of the range prams.

But people can be funny about secondhand for their precious little one. Some people feel secondhand is a stigma that says they are poor, but often it’s the well-off who actually choose it and are less phased by it and don’t feel the need to prove their wealth by a new expensive buggy.

Definitely worth looking into secondhand. Every model and colour under the sun will be available. Yes, you need to check them out for defects, but remember that three or 4 uses and in and outs of the car boot, and going through a bit of dirt or mud, and most won’t look totally brand new anyway. It’s a bit like depreciation on a new car.

TheKeatingFive · 12/03/2021 09:21

It’s true that the second hand market for this stuff is very good OP. Worth looking into.

Crikeycroc · 12/03/2021 09:23

We nearly bought the $$$ pram at the baby shop. I’m actually really glad I didn’t as I saved a fortune buying an online only Australian brand.
I f ok e I sh is bought a car seat that would clip on the frame though! All the mums in my mothers group had them and they looked so convenient.

BakeOffRewatch · 12/03/2021 09:23

I totally get it @pramenvy20!!! You’re not looking for solutions, but to share the wistful feelings.

We were getting all baby ready last summer when DH was furloughed all lockdown and facing redundancy. We went secondhand on all the big items and bought a bundle of used newborn clothes, I had a nice summer driving around heavily pregnant! I would have loved to unbox a new snuzpod and put it together, even though I have a snuzpod, and pick individual newborn size outfits. I would have got the red cybex car seat for newborns with isofix (was very sensible and got a new joie ispin 360 that will last years). I still look at the £££ special edition Liberty print Ocarro now (even the M&P personal shopper was shocked by the price). If we hadn’t had the money worries, I would have bought that whole range www.bumpbabyandyou.co.uk/baby/this-mamas-papas-x-liberty-london-collection-is-beautiful

I got a 2015 Ocarro for £300 from Facebook marketplace, only the bassinet was used, with all accessories including the essential cup holder Grin. I use it all the time and love the one hand fold, don’t need to take apart but I still feel how you do, that I couldn’t splash out on the things you really want for first born. I might have the money for second but I know I won’t be bothered!

Thanks for making this thread, nice to get it all out.

@MrPickles73 there’s a really strong resale market for the branded travel systems, we think we’d be able to resell ours for price we got it.