To know I mustn't, but kind of want to...

[mytwocentsworth]

...tell a newlywed lady that her new husband pretending to be single for 6 months while he lived overseas, and dated me during that time?

I wouldn't ruin someone's happiness of course so I won't.

This man swore blind he was single and spent every weekend when he was here having romantic weekends with me. We even went on holiday together!

He disappeared when he got home (2 years ago now) and I quickly recovered.

I just discovered he'd had a girlfriend all along and just married her.

Poor woman. What a vile human being he is.

Poor lady.
I wouldn't tell her but if he's ever on sm I would make him squirm occasionally with the odd subtle comment.

I'd keep quiet. Their marriage is none of your business.

What a massive cock nostril.

@joystir59

I'd keep quiet. Their marriage is none of your business.

Absolutely. I wouldn't say a word.

I just can't believe the audacity of some people though.

That man deserves an Oscar for this acting! I always thought my bullshit barometer was pretty well tuned but obviously not!

@Thehop

What a massive cock nostril.

I've just noticed I can click 'like' on the Facebook page update. So tempting....

(I wasn't stalking him incidentally. I saw someone with his same name on a FB group and checked if it was him. It wasn't but I found him right after).

I think i would want to know if I was married to him

He's an absolute shit but after two years, and now living overseas, yeah, it isn't your place to get involved. Can certainly see why you want to, though.

@ijokeijoke

I think i would want to know if I was married to him

Why? It was two years ago. What purpose would it serve? You don't know what the arrangement was between the two of them OP is being sensible in voicing it here and not potentially ruining a marriage

-This was two years ago?

-He's just got married.

-You got a suggested "you might know?" fb name flash up which wasn't him but you found him after that and have looked at his latest posts ...

Yeah, you're stalking his social media (sm) a bit

FGS block his sm / fb and don't start hitting 'like' on any of his posts

He behaved badly if he two timed you and her. What a knob and I can understand how hurtful that was to be betrayed and used like that. You haven't heard from him since. Let it go

Don't start stalker behaviour!
You'd just make yourself look sad and undignified

This was 2 years ago, how do you know he was with his now wife back then?

So OP, I'm glad you asked on MN instead. So we could talk you down ...! And get you to step away from his or her sm.

Rant about what a party he was back then, on here instead.

*Pratt
Not party!

I would want to know about the sort of man I'd married

@activitythree

This was 2 years ago, how do you know he was with his now wife back then?

There's photos of them all over SM together.

I did do a little bit of stalking once I found him, admittedly. He'd dated me for 6 months and then completely ghosted one day, so you can't blame me for being curious! We'd had plans to meet up in future etc and then he just disappeared. I never found out what happened to him.

I'm not angry or looking for revenge. It was a long time back and long forgotten for me. I feel sad for her though.

I’m normally anti FB stalking but after a ghosting it’s fair game to be curious

You don't know their situation. They could have just been dating at that point, seeing different people as they lived in other countries, or had split up and got back together. It's shit that he ghosted you but I think you just need to move on and put it behind you.

@Tallybeebloom

You don't know their situation. They could have just been dating at that point, seeing different people as they lived in other countries, or had split up and got back together. It's shit that he ghosted you but I think you just need to move on and put it behind you.

That's true.

I suspect from what he'd told me about being single since his divorce and then the immediate ghosting when he returned home that he probably had been with her (also indicated on SM).

Nonetheless, I'm not bitter. I hadn't really thought about him for a long time until today. I am, however, so disheartened at the way men betray the women who love and trust them.

I would click a like on one of his posts just to make him nervous, I'm passive aggressive af 😁 then I'd walk off into the sunset with my head held high 🌄
You do right moaning on MN, get it off your chest 💐

It's interesting that people say that you should keep quiet.

I wonder if a betrayed wife/husband would actually want to know now rather than find out in years to come. I would rather know. You know when people say that they were the last to find out about infidelity and everyone else knew but said nothing .....why do people not say? Who does it protect - the person that had the affair is protected the most.

He wasn't married to her then, she may not have been his girlfriend, just a girl he liked during the time he was seeing you but when he went back and saw her, they just 'clicked'. She may know something of you, for all you know he could have told her he'd been seeing a very nice girl for a while.

I think the fact that he just disappeared after you had been so close is a bit off and rather cowardly. However what were the terms of your relationship? Did you plan a future together or were you just close, loving friends?

The fact that you are not that bothered makes it sound as though it wasn't a serious relationship. If it had been you would have been devastated.

You obviously had some good times, pleasant memories.