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To accept a new job offer?

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MiaFarrowsWheelbarrow · 11/03/2021 06:25

The job role I currently have is salaried for 40 hours per week but I sometimes work well over that, the pay is generous for the industry but for various reasons it's stressful and all decision making is on me and I have no TOIL or overtime options. I have mental health problems which are controlled but I can feel them getting worse due to the thought of the stress about to come plus when it's a busy period I never get any kind of proper home life or time for hobbies/friends. Occasionally the days are long (leave home at 6.45am and return at 9.00pm). The job I currently have has a certain kudos in the small community where I live and I'm popular because of it and I'm proud of what I have achieved. I've been furloughed since before Christmas and it's nearly time to return to work and I'm reflecting on my choices as, like many, I'm not sure I want to go back to that stressful routine. On a total whim I applied for a different job and I have the final job interview today but it's just a formality really as I've already been told it's more or less mine, the contract is temporary for only 5 months (seasonal work) and I will be paid approx £500 less per month than I'm being paid now but it's in a beautiful location, very little decision making and generally less stressful all round, I can literally go to work, do the job and come home, no planning, no stupidly early mornings and very late nights, just set hours. I really don't know what to do. Would I be unreasonable to accept it and hope I can find another job when the contract ends? The household finances aren't dire but we aren't rolling in money either, my husband says "do whatever makes you happy", but I'm struggling to justify potentially accepting a job that pays less with no security. I know I haven't been offered the job properly yet but what would you do if you were me?

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NoProblem123 · 12/03/2021 14:32

I would use it as a stepping stone yes.
Start looking and applying for other jobs the moment you resign.
This 5 months is a gift.

MiaFarrowsWheelbarrow · 19/03/2021 11:51

Just an update. After a meeting with my employer who wasn't prepared to change any of the terms of my current employment, in face they didn't even want to discuss it in any detail, I decided to resign and accept the temporary position but, meanwhile, I'm already looking for other jobs which are more permanent. I have an interview lined up for next week for an immediate start if I get that job so I'm (fairly) confident I will find something permanent again.

Thank you for all your advice, I will certainly never be accepting a job again that doesn't offer TOIL or overtime that's for sure! I've heard "on the grapevine" that my previous employers have already directly approached and offered my job to several others people in the same industry who knew how hard I was working/being worked and they all turned it down citing the treatment of me as the reason why. If others had noticed then I know I made the right decision.

Yes, I definitely need to be more assertive- will work on that going forward.

Thanks everyone!

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Newestname001 · 19/03/2021 14:22

Hello @MiaFarrowsWheelbarrow

I'm sorry your employer was so negative about discussing a situation which would have worked better for you and, therefore, themselves. It looks like they've shot themselves in the foot about replacing you - more fool them!

I hope you manage to get something better long term and soon. Best wishes for the future. 🌹

ElysiumFeels · 19/03/2021 14:28

There are some alarm bells in how your describing the current job.
Last year work stress reached a peak for me and I suddenly acquired a debilitating health condition which has taken an enormous amount of energy to manage since and it would appear it's likely to be for life.

Just saying...

Mylovelyhorsee · 19/03/2021 14:37

I wouldn’t do it.

Catlover77 · 24/03/2021 22:11

I think you are right to take the job

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