Should I be upset at this?

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I have had the same friendship group since university, 4 girls, and everytime it is one of our birthdays, we all put some money in to get each other a present. My birthday was in November, one of them asked what I might like, I sent some links, but in the end they didn't get me anything. I didn't think that much of it, I figured we are pretty old (30+) to still be doing birthday presents now anyway. Then a message comes through for a collection for another girl in the group who has a March birthday. I mentioned to one of them that I think they may have forgotten my birthday and she said sorry she has got a present but there was a delay with delivery with covid and she will give to me next time she sees me (we have no idea when this might be though with lockdown etc). Then got a thank you message through from the girl who had a birthday in March today saying thank you her presents arrived on her actual birthday, so the same girl had bought and sent presents to her address. I don't know whether to be slightly upset or just let it go?!

Lots of deliveries were delayed in November due to lockdown and Christmas, I would say it’s a very different time to be posting something now. They’ve got you a gift but you just need to wait to get it so yeah I think it’s silly to be upset about it.

I can understand being upset. You feel less valued? Wait and see what happens.

I think if it's an otherwise solid friendship group, I'd put it down to everyone being busy, especially between the pandemic and Christmas buildup etc. I wouldn't want to lose good friendships over one birthday present.

If it's part of a pattern, that would be very hurtful.

@NeepNeepNeep @MindyStClaire you are right, that makes sense xx

Yes, that's not on. They just didn't bother. I wouldn't be paying for anymore birthday gifts for anyone else.

Did you put money onto the gift for the other friend? Was your gift request subject to shipping? Lots of variables here. It looks like your gift may have been delayed. If it's a long term friendship is it worth losing these friends over?

Yeah I did put into the gift for the other friend :) I always do. It was makeup from a website as shops were closed in November so it would have needed to ship yes. Though I can't imagine it would take 4 months x

If it was being shipped, it might be delayed. I only say this because I ordered from a popular crafting website, however the items are shipped from Spain. I ordered in December (early on). I didn’t receive my package until end of February. I was told due to brexit things were very slow, so depending on where it would be arriving from, might be that (plus the covid situation and lockdowns).