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[MotherofPoodles]

The last few days my FB wall has been awash with vile things that people are saying about Prince Harry and MM regarding the interview. Vile things about people they don't know. I just don't understand how they can speak to visiciously about people? I'm getting pretty upset about it.

I have stepped away from Social Media. And I know this isn't the right place for a aibu because I don't have one. I just don't understand how people are so bloody unkind.

MN is social media too, and there are plenty of tedious threads about the same subject today.

You may have come to the wrong place - or, like many, you will be kept busy hiding threads.

Why is there so much stuff on your wall? Are they posts from real life friends?

Anyone who gets worked up about the situation needs to have a long hard look at themselves.

The only thing worth being concerned about is that the British tabloid media is clearly racist, won’t admit it, and won’t do anything about it. That’s hardly a revelation though.

Foony.. no mostly acquaintances but to do with what I do for a living. I feel better just writing it down tbh.

My FB feed is as normal as I get rid of anyone ranting on about this kind of thing or mute them for a time if I think it will pass.

I think some people are just profoundly angry people, who need an outlet for their rage at the world. Many of them are deeply unhappy with how their lives have turned out so they're bitter at witnessing two individuals who are clearly very privileged engaging in "whining".

It's clear that some people derive great pleasure from inflicting pain on others, because their own pain is so great.

And of course racism plays a huge role. So many people are covert racists, people who don't actively hate black people but have internalised messages about race, sex, privilege and power that we're all subconsciously bombarded with a thousand times a day, from growing up in a patriarchal society and growing up in a society predicated on white supremacy. There are plenty of people who would never consider themselves to be racist because they don't actively dislike black people, who nonetheless have a visceral emotional reaction to the sight of a black woman in an expensive designer dress in a carriage (for example), because subconsciously they've internalised racist and misogynistic messages.

When people who have grown up in a racist society become disenfranchised, they lash out. They've been raised (probably subconsciously) to believe that a certain level of success is their birthright, and are angry when that doesn't appear. A lot of racism is bitterness, and anger turned onto the wrong target, and people trying to find outlets for their own disillusionment. It's clear that some posters use MN (both Meghan threads and non-Meghan threads) because they derive pleasure from winding up and trying to upset black women. There's tons of posters on MN who just enjoy being goady and find it fun to try to wind people up, because they're bitter or just because they're bored. Add race to that and such goadiness becomes much nastier.

It's a sport to some people to try to upset others.

Reassess who you're connected with on social media, OP.

I've not had any of this nastiness on mine - not about Brexit, not about the general election, not about Harry & Meagan or any of the 21st century turbulence.

It's probably because I choose who I am digitally connected with carefully.

I do not do this to create an echo chamber - far from it! Ranting crazy blind nastiness is not my cup of tea..regardless of whichever side of the road they are shouting from 🤷🏼‍♀️

Rose that's really what I needed to hear, thank you.

Of course I can and most likely will unfollow these people. But I mix with them at competitions etc and they all seem like kind and nice people otherwise I wouldn't be "friends" with them.

I'm just sad that people I respected thought this way.

Thank you for the replies.