On the back of another thread I’ve done, I may be projecting because I have severe self image issues due to comments about size, but as a result of this I am very careful to make positive comments only about my children’s appearances and try to avoid making remarks on appearances as if they are perceived wrong it could send the wrong message and be damaging. My dd, was recently upset by SIL because she was taking her and her cousins the same age home to our house (they are our bubble) and my dd is now feeling a bit self conscious about her size because according to her, SIL said could the largest one go in the front, then gestured to her. The thing is she is not larger than the other kids or taller, I don’t see why it mattered who went in the front seat so why did she have to single dd out as being the “largest?” She is normal size for her age (12) If I approach SIL about it I’m fully prepared to be told I’m being over sensitive but the comment has clearly annoyed dd and it’s the first time she’s ever even thought about being “bigger” than others. But AIBU to think this comment was unnecessary and at best stupid and at worst rude? Would like some opinions, thank you in advance for replies