To think I did the right things

[Inthedarkx]

My 19 month olds been ill on and off for two weeks with temperatures. I initially put it off as viral until the other night she has a febrile convulsion and very high temp. Asked my ex her dad to take her to A and E as We have other children and I don't drive he does. Didn't think it would be an issue considering she's his daughter. He was ok this time brought her back and she was given antibiotics for a UTI

Then early hours this morning she had a temp again, and developed a red rash on both arms, the leaflet he brought back from the hospital said any rash to go get checked. So i called him and he took her but apparently I'm a hypochondriac and he couldn't see a rash just redness and the the doctor agrees with him.

Am I being unreasonable to think that getting her checked was the right thing to do? She's been really ill. Hasn't even spoke or anything and I felt it was best.

Now I'm the worst person in the world because he's had no sleep but I've had sleepless nights on my own for the last 2 weeks because of her high temps and illness.

Plus the rash was there a bubble rash, and I've got a photo too but apparently it's just redness

You saw a rash, you followed the advice. Hes being ridiculous to grump. You need to sleep, I suggest letting his grump carry him through today while you catch up on sleep.

You are definitely not being unreasonable to get your baby checked out if you are concerned about her, especially with the previous symptoms she'd had. What if next time you decide not to, because you are worried about your ex's reaction and it turns out to be serious? Trust your instincts.

You’re not unreasonable to get DC checked out.

The only thing I’d say though is that 2 people don’t always make the same judgement as to when to go for help and when to “wait and see”. The one going for help is no more a hypochondriac than the one saying “wait and see” is neglectful. It’s not always obvious when to get to A&E.