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AIBU?

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AIBU re nosey neighbours?

7 replies

Clydie89 · 10/03/2021 08:48

We got on well with NDN at the start 5 years ago but quickly learned they liked a gossip so distanced ourselves as it sometimes felt like you were being interviewed for info so it could be passed on rather than just chat. They do it with everyone on the street and I've seen other neighbours hide to swerve them. They are nice enough, but absolute curtain twitchers.

Over lockdown (it's been one long year of lockdown where I am) they have been doing my head in. So noisey, nosey and plain weird.

Like every one else during lockdown, we did some well needed work on our garden. Just us, no workmen. NDN suddenly decided he wanted to take our bins in and out for us all of a sudden. I was WFH one day and caught him peering in the bin and then having a wander round the garden. I called out and asked him to leave them, he was very sheepish. They then suddenly started doing similar work to their garden having literally not spent more than 5mins in it in the 5 years we've been here. Over summer after the work they still didn't spend any time in it, just stayed in the house all the time?!

My DH has a company car. If his is in for repair or he's asked to change, we always get a message asking if he has another new car. There are no issues with parking so it is just for noseyness.

If a letter or parcel gets delivered to them accidentally, its always slightly tampered with before it gets to us. I've heard them ask the postie if anyone on the street isn't in to give them a shout as they are happy to take it Hmm

A neighbour further down congratulated me on my pregnancy quite early on before bump. NDN had told them. NDN wasn't told, they seen a highchair box in our conservatory.

Their path is on the side of the garden next to our boundary, they literally cannot come or go without staring in the windows the whole time.

Our house is currently for sale (well offer accepted now). We didn't tell them in advance, they are literally going to the bins every time they hear my door in the hopes of catching me. I can tell its driving them mad not knowing. No sold sign as yet. AIBU not telling them?

I'm sort of enjoying getting back at them in a mild way tbh. Probably makes me a horrible person...but to anyone who doesn't think IBU, is there any other ways to mildly torture a curtain twitcher neighbour?

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Bonheurdupasse · 10/03/2021 08:55

Not U at all Grin

B33Fr33 · 10/03/2021 09:01

Well the move date. Keep that one under your hat and anything you can about the new neighbours. They will be desperate to know. If the weather is good you could start leaving "decoy" boxes outside for an hour with mysterious room names "dungeon" "FBI notes" "rocket equipment" on. Just for giving them co.pletely false gossip.

Ragwort · 10/03/2021 09:05

We have a similar neighbour - it is really annoying but as she never goes out it is like having a private security guard as she watches all the time, she's always happy to take in parcels and keeps our spare key !

Sparklfairy · 10/03/2021 09:06

@B33Fr33

Well the move date. Keep that one under your hat and anything you can about the new neighbours. They will be desperate to know. If the weather is good you could start leaving "decoy" boxes outside for an hour with mysterious room names "dungeon" "FBI notes" "rocket equipment" on. Just for giving them co.pletely false gossip.
I love this. As you're moving and will never see them again, take this opportunity to wind them up something rotten Grin
Flowerlane · 10/03/2021 09:11

I was about to say you need to tell them to butt out etc but then read your moving Grin

I would do everything in my power to be secretive, don’t give any info away and avoid as much as possible! Grin

Feel for the new owners let’s hope they stand up to them from day one.

Clydie89 · 10/03/2021 09:16

@Flowerlane

I was about to say you need to tell them to butt out etc but then read your moving Grin

I would do everything in my power to be secretive, don’t give any info away and avoid as much as possible! Grin

Feel for the new owners let’s hope they stand up to them from day one.

Thankfully I don't need to feel guilty as the person buying is aware of them as she has multiple family members already on the street. None of them are planning to mention they know who's moving in, we had a joke about it at the viewing!

They are good security guards but like I say, a bit odd. When I was in labour and at hosp they text to say we'd left the back door open. Nope! It was an internal door that they know we leave open 99% of the time.... Plus if you genuinely thought the door was wide open and neighbours were out, surely you'd go round and shut it?! This was pre garden incident.

Love the idea of false boxes with top secret info! Wink

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Tigerstripe20 · 10/03/2021 11:41

You are very fortunate to be moving

My neighbours are probably the noseiest, gossipiest people I have ever met self styled road and Covid police!

Whatever you say or don't say gets misconstrued to suit their own agenda.
Like you they spend whats seems like every waking moment trying to catch us or other unsuspecting people to chat.
Be mysterious and give nothing away !
I wish I could afford a property miles from anyone , possibly in a forest

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