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To downsize from a house to a flat because of neighbour noise?

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iheartheirbodilyfunctions · 09/03/2021 21:30

I currently rent a two bed mid terraced house from a housing association. The walls are very very thin and the neighbours bathroom is next to my bedroom. I hear everything. Every wee, every fart, every shit, every bum sliding across the bath, every toilet seat slam, every 2am bathroom cleaning. Everything. They wake me up throughout the night banging about, every night. I’d say it’s half them being very inconsiderate (ie slamming doors so loud my floor vibrates and windows rattle) and half the thin walls making me hear regular household noise plus they seem to work shifts so the bathroom is in constant use (baths and showers throughout the night). I haven’t slept through in months despite trying white noise etc. I’ve also tried sleeping with the TV on which works well for me but bothers the neighbours in the house on the other side so I’ve stopped (because we never hear anything from them in the night so I don’t want to cause them sleepless nights!).

I have the chance to move to a two bed flat with the same HA. I wouldn’t have a garden anymore and the floor space is smaller. I was so happy when we got this house too after years of horrible renting situations. I feel stupid giving it up but I’m just so desperate to sleep again and the layout of the flat means the bedrooms won’t be near the bathrooms and I’d only have one neighbour underneath for one of the bedrooms, and the other would be with a neighbour underneath and one next door. But then I could move from the frying pan into the fire! I’m so tired from months of no proper sleep that I’m worried I’ll make the wrong decision. Private renting again is not an option financially and neither is buying.

AIBU to move to the flat? What would you do?

OP posts:
fairydustandpixies · 10/03/2021 01:02

I've lived with horrendous neighbours but 'better the devil you know' has always rung true in hindsight.

tenredthings · 10/03/2021 01:22

I would look into buying sound insulated plasterboard and would line the shared wall in your bedroom. You can look up how to put it up on YouTube. It's not that expensive or difficult to do.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/03/2021 01:40

Do you honestly think its going to be any quieter in a flat

Eviethyme · 10/03/2021 01:42

Are you doing it via mutual exchange? Is there really no way you could exchange with either another house or atleast a flat with a garden or a balcony.

I would live in a flat if I didn't have younger kids, I've never had a problem But I would have to be ground floor or have a lift

JustLyra · 10/03/2021 02:17

Do you have the chance to look around the flat? Decent soundproofing makes the work of difference. My BIL just moved from a house to a flat and the flat is much much quieter just because it’s built better.

Caramelwhispers · 10/03/2021 05:03

Flats are worse for noise, my neighbour lives in a maisonette and she's having trouble with the people above her. There's constant movement noise, door slamming, thumping & mobile phones ringing. Also, her ceiling shakes when they put their washing machine on. So I don't think the flat is the answer to your problem here.

Caspianberg · 10/03/2021 05:22

You can add sound insulation by building built in furniture. Can you get wardrobes or bookcases built in on that side?

WeatherwaxLives · 10/03/2021 06:07

If you can sleep with the TV on, can you get wireless soft headphones to sleep in that can connect to the TV? DP has some in a beanie hat, and I've seen them in a sort of sweat band.

DianaT1969 · 10/03/2021 06:26

Get the wall sound-proofed. It will be the best money you ever spent. I had a similar issue and the dividing wall was just one layer or aerated brick. I had another layer of brick added, plastered and painted. No noise now.
You could try plasterboard as you don't own. Get advice from a builder.
If I were you, I'd also try to find someone I could pay to pick up the cat poo so I could use it in summer. It's a service some people offer for dog poo. I imagine someone in your area does it for cat poo too.

justasmalltownmum · 10/03/2021 07:19

@iheartheirbodilyfunctions

Oh dear, it does seem like there’s no hope with this one then! Repositioning the room hasn’t worked because of the volume of the banging about. It literally sounds like they’re moving furniture about sometimes it’s that loud. It shakes the floor. Honestly the houses are ridiculous for noise carrying. The walls are some sort of concrete and straw thing apparently. There is not a single place in the house where I can get away from the noise. Even the regular noises carry (you can hear the toilet flush even when you’re downstairs or two rooms away... I dread to think what the other side hear from our bathroom!). I’ve never lived in a house as bad as this before for sound carrying. I can hear them bashing about in the bathroom as I type this.

Exchanging isn’t an option as people round here don’t want to live in these houses. Apparently they are known for being shit. Wish someone had told me! You live and learn I suppose.

The garden isn’t a massive deal for me because we can’t use it at the moment anyway. Their cats poo in it daily and I can’t clean it up because of medical issues. It’s literally a giant litter box. It all makes me quite sad tbh because I was so happy to get this house. I was hoping the flat would be a way out but it does sound like noise would be an issue there too.

We used to get foxes in our garden. Until we bought this sound repellent thingy from Amazon. It makes a noise only foxes/ cats etc can hear and now they don't come.
hettie · 10/03/2021 07:27

If get silicone ear plugs from boots (tried loads these are the best) a white noise generating app on my phone... Also can you move your bed away from the wall at all?

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