Moving a child in year 8 due to bullying?

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Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any experience changing their child's school in year 8 due to bullying.
My son's bully just won't leave him alone if he gets in trouble he's fine for a month and then he's back causing carnage.
After today's bullying I don't know if I can send him back.
Has anyone successfully moved their kids in year 8?
I feel worried either way as he has friends at his current school so he will have to start making friends all over again if he moves, but if I keep him in there I don't know if this kid will ever stop.

Please move him

@DiscoGlitterBall no it's in Gloucestershire. Sorry to hear of another school with the wrong priorities.

@HollyandJingles in the FOD? My sister was bullied horrendously and the school did absolutely naff all. For some reason a slap on the wrist and a word with the parent is a rightful punishment? Half the time the parent is also clearly a bully too.

Do it- DD1 was in a really bad place at the same age. It was more complicated than one individual picking on her though. The school was sadly really unsupportive. We changed schools mid year as it got to the point where she just couldn't get up in the morning. It was last year and a couple of months after her transfer the pandemic hit! Despite that though she has been thriving and 1000 times happier than she was before. Listen to your guts.

Sorry about your son, it's awful isn't it. I would agree with others, defo move. My dd was moved after Easter only in Yr 7. She was subjected to low level bullying and being left out by supposed friends etc but it was enough to have her crying most mornings. School were useless and at first refused to change her lessons. I insisted and said I'd keep her off. They put her in a special unit and final straw was when she was told it didn't matter to repeat same work she had done the previous week. Dd was reluctant at moving but agreed to look around a different school. They were fantastic with her. She was put with a buddy immediately and settled quickly. My son will be going to that school in Sep. I hope you get it sorted and if your son is like my dd overwhelmed at the thought of moving, just keep it casual and say let's have a look anyway. Worked for me! All the teachers came over to say hello and were so friendly, it made the difference.

I moved school in yr 8 due to bullying. Was the best move. I had friends at the new school but not in my new class, still I settled in quickly.

I have to say, the experience of being bullied (and being a teenager so not v self aware) brought out the worst in me. In the new school I found myself considered cool and popular, and I became a bit of a bully myself. Looking back I think I was full of front because I was terrified of being bullied again, so made myself look and feel big whenever possible. It was unforgivable and I deeply regret that side of me which came out. Support your child in their transition to find healthy ways to develop their sense of confidence and security.

I took my gcse choices at my new school. Leaving it until after selecting GCSE's might make it harder.

@LifesLittleDeciders No not FOD. One in Churchdown near Gloucester. She had to have meetings with the teachers and the bullies, all together to “chat” about things and talk it through. The bullies said all the right things, school staff told my daughter she needed to forgive and forget and that was it.
The afternoon the bully threatened her at the bus stop with a table knife was the last time she went to that school.
School said they could do nothing as it was out if school hours and not on school grounds or a school bus. Police said it was a school matter. We gave up after that.