to ask my oh not to go to trade show in spain 4 weeks before i am due

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i am not sure if he should go or not. he would be able to get a flight back if i went into labour. we had a bit of a row about it. i am not sure if i am being a bit ott.
what are the chances of me going in to labour so early.

Its only spain Not unreasonable to feel worried but 4 weeks before is probably a little bit early to stop him going, imo.

I would say it's probably very unlikely that you would go into labour that early, especially if it's your first baby.

I would pick your arguments here - would probably be far more useful for you to veto any business trips of his in the first few weeks and months after the birth, you will need him far more then.

However, if you really are distressed about it, and he can get out of going, he should try and avoid it for your sake.

to be honest i just didnt know what was the done thing.
i would hate him to miss out on the birth but i can see that 4 weeks is early so i agree that it is probably worth the risk.
it will actually be nice to spend a few days on my own sprtingout the nursery and things as my mat leave will have just started

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how far is Spain? 2 hour flight or so

I wouldn't worry tbh

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sorry to hear you rowed over this...you must be a bit anxious?...

how long will he be gone for...im inclined to say let him go..four weeks is ages..you could go two weeks over!
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the row was more about his attitude. he has a habit of not listening to what i say before disagreeing.

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My DH wanted to go on a weekend to Ibiza 4 weeks before DS2 was due but I persuaded him not to go.

However, DS1 was born 5 weeks early so I think we had good reason to be cautious !

In the end DS2 arrived on time, so he could have gone.

My DD arrived 5 weeks early, the day before my DH was due to go to germany on a boys driving weekend. DD arrived within 3 hours of me realising i was in labour. So no i dont think you ABU

well not UR to ask him not to go. Can i gather from your posts that he didn't ask if it was ok or how you felt he just said he was going? I would've been too in that case.

As others have said if it's your first, no pg complications 4 weeks before due date you should be fine. Obv a flight back form Spain is easy enough to get.

I guess i'm biased about going out/off before the due date as both my babies arrived well after the due date(40+14 and 40+11)

So i'd tell him to go, as long as there's no complications with your pg that could mena early labour. But YANBU to worry about it. Totally natural response to being pg and near to birth and worried about everything.

It will be pretty easy to get back from Spain. My dh managed to get back in the nick of time from South Africa (ds 2 weeks early).

It is a bit of a worry though, I know.

When I was about 35 weeks pg with my third my OH came home from work and said "they need someone to go to Chicago next week. Obviously I won't be going" and I told him there was no reason at all why he couldn't go. BUT neither of my first two were early AND I have supportive family close by. If you are not happy for your OH to be away I think you are being totally reasonable to ask him not go.