AIBU sister and renting

[blankfish344]

Due to a relationship breakup, I now live with my sister who is one year older than me. I pay £450pcm for a room in her house. Moved in, in Jan and hope to be out before summer as I've bought my own house. She has recently (last night) reignited with someone who she wants to have a sexual relationship with. She has therefore proposed that I stay elsewhere occasionally when she wants him around for sex.

I think this is unfair because she wouldn't treat a friend or a regular tenant this way. I feel she's taking advantage of my position as her sister, who needs a roof over her head. I'm a teacher and my weekends are precious to me, the thought of having to find somewhere to stay on the weekends for the nights she wants him round seems awful to me.

She thinks I'm being unreasonable and will not see my point of view.

Please give me your honest opinions, I plan to show her the thread either way.

Are you paying something approaching market rent? If so easy to say piss off. If she’s letting you stay there as a giant favour and that’s losing her money, then she is being weird but not necessarily as wrong.

Buy her a gag.

Thats the going rate in most parts of the country for a room in a shared house. So much for sisterly affection.

She's not exactly helping you get back on your feet but is in fact quids in because of your relationship breakdown and now she wants you to vacate for the weekends. Do you have friends who would let you stay with them whilst you wait for your house?

I would find another room elsewhere.

She is being unfair and ridiculous.

That’s really not on op. You are quite right - you wouldn’t ask that of a tenant. As you have bought a house, can’t she wait til you move out and go to his if she needs complete alone time?

Why can't she go to the fuckbuddy's house?

How often is occasionally

How often does he stay

Can she stay at his

You have brought a house. Assume moving out in 3mtgs or so

I would prob say happy to stay odd night out at dads /prem inn and deduct off rent

I would move out, personally.

She is trying to take advantage of you being her sister which is ridiculous since you are paying her rent. Tell her to do one. Also asking you to stay out elsewhere so she can have sex is hardly in the spirit of the restrictions. Go for a covid test when he is due round, then your household will have to isolate (joke)

Why did she need to tell you they are having sex. Im assuming it will be in her room with the door closed. So seems a bit weird to me! Give them space as in not in the living room if they are etc. Use the kitchen and ypur room when he visits should be enough privacy! Especially as shes charging you market rent!

It's not unheard of for flatmates to make themselves scarce for the evening but not the whole night, and that's when there are other places to go!

More appropriate would be for her to arrange her assignations for when you are planning to be elsewhere.

She’s being totally unreasonable asking you to stay elsewhere. Dies she realise there’s a pandemic going on? Even without that major issue, asking you to leave us so unfair and rude.

I’d suggest you look for a short term house share and move out.

Do you have noise cancelling headphones you can wear, until you find another place, while she’s having her noisy sex?

@ktp100

I'd book a decent hotel and tell her you'll be deducting the price from next month's rent.

Cheeky cow!!

^ that. She’s being completely unreasonable.

Why can’t she go to the other person’s house for her date night?

She is being completely unreasonable and I would be and and if my sister suggested I piss off every weekend from my home / the place I actually fucking paid for.

Jog on Sis.

She either pays for you to stay in a hotel, or reduces the rent to allow you to do that

I would be looking for somewhere else to rent another friend or family member maybe.

She is being totally unreasonable and greedy she wants the rent but doesn’t want you there full time.

Even if she offered to pay for a hotel etc I still wouldn’t be happy that at the drop of a hat you could be told you are not coming home tonight as my bfs here. Sod that!

Have a look on Spareroom. What's the going rate for lodgers in your area @blankfish344 ? £450 pcm is roughly the average price in lots of random counties I checked. If you're paying the average cost say no and look elsewhere for lodgings. I doubt you're getting mates rates at that price so she has no right to ask and still charge you without discount.

You can't stay in a hotel unless it's an essential reason can you? Doubt this meets the criteria
Nor can he visit for that matter. If she wants you to pay tenant rates you get tenant rights