I've name changed for this. Just incase this outs me to anyone irl.
I have 2 DC with my ex. He is ex army (got discharged a few months after we had got together). His MH when we was together wasn't the greatest, relationship over time became very negative and toxic.
He started getting into conspiracies after a few years of us being together, devolped a drug habit, was in and out of work, got himself arrested, left us with no money 90% of the time and put me down so much I could no longer bare to look myself in the mirror. After years of his BS I built up the courage to walk away from him.
Fast forward nearly 2 years, he does see the kids. Not regularly mind you, it's always on his terms & he doesn't give me a penny for them, I do it all alone. He will arrange things with me and then change the plans last minute or make up an excuse he is now busy. It's got to the point I don't actually mention to my DC when they're seeing him. I wait until the day of and say you're going to your dad's today. He has a steady job that he has been in for over a year and no longer takes drugs. The kids go to see him at his mums house when he does see them so I have no doubt he is clean as his mum would tell me, what I do have an issue with is the brain washing! My DC are 10 & 5, they have came back from his saying their dad has told them to ask me to buy bottled water as there is fluoride in tap water.. My older DC refused to drink tap water for days and days at first until I told him there was no alternative, I was not going to be spending my money on bottled water when we have a tap with unlimited amounts.
Now they have came home telling me Covid isn't real, the government are lying ect. I am mortified! It's embarrassing for me when the kids will repeat things to other people as I worry they'll think it's me telling them, not to mention it is so wrong to say that to 2 children who don't know any different. I am also vulnerable so when I have asked my DC to wash their hands once they got in I was told "I don't see why I have to Corona isn't even real!" It's now caused a tension between me & my older child as I explained to him it has killed people, I have told him that if I was to catch it there is a very high chance it could make me extremely unwell that I'd end up in hospital and I was still told "well dad told me it isn't real" and I said your dad doesn't know everything.
He has also slagged me & my partner off to my older son as he has in the past told me bit begged me not to mention it to his dad. And I don't want to break that trust woth him and bring it up. I have mentioned to h about mentioning things to the kids about some of his beliefs and I just get told theure my kids as much as yours or I won't hide the truth.
Surely this is some form of abuse? It is brain washing them. Does anyone know if there is anything I can do in regards to this? I do plan on seeing if CAB can help me in anyway. My older DC is under CAMHs his next app is next week so I am going to bring it up to them. They do already know about it but I will be mentioning it again.