I'm asking here for my bf with her permission. She's 38 with two kids and in recent years her husband has struggled with depression. He is currently off work on sick pay and she works full time in a stressful enough job but money is tight.
One day last weekend , her car wouldn't start outside her work so she asked me to pick her up. We collected her youngest from nursery and I went in with her to collect a piece of equipment I was borrowing. The house was like a bomb had gone off in it but rubbish everywhere and her husband was sitting in his tracksuit watching tv. He barely acknowledged us or the kids.
After I left my friend called very upset. Her Dh had been getting very upset with her for not being emotionally supportive . According to him She doesn't ask how he is feeling each day and cuts Him off when he starts to talk about his anxiety and how down he's feeling. She acknowledges that's this is true but feels that by the time she's done with her work. Kids homework's dinner and tidying up, she's just emotionally and physically drained and doesn't have the energy to listen to his issues which she says is the same conversation day in day out..
she doesn't know and I don't know who is being unreasonable here..! He's unwell but she's exhausted from doing it all by herself. She admitted that she is totally starting to resent him for not helping more and doesn't know if her marriage will survive this resentment. Should she be more supportive? She's my bestie so I know I'm biased and always put her first.