Anger problem or hubby was wrong

[Mrsangrypants]

This morning DD(4) told me that she accidentally ripped DH pocket on pjs and he called her stupid. I text him about it and he called me to say she did rip it but he didn’t call her stupid. DD misinterprets stuff all the time, I guess it’s an age thing so I wanted to get the story so I could reassure her that it didn’t happen. Fast forward to just now DD in bed and DH telling me the story of what happened. DD had kicked off about something during breakfast and ripped the pocket while DH was trying to calm her down and he said “well that was stupid”. I’m so angry I just had a massive go at him. I said to him, her being 4 she probably just heard the word stupid and had he told me this when I asked instead off “I didn’t happen” I could have explained the difference to her instead of saying daddy didn’t say that. I’m really upset that she might now be thinking mummy and daddy told me this didn’t happen when it did kinda iyswim. Now the AIBU, I’m still really angry about it and I’m wondering now if it’s normal for me to be so angry (like do I have an anger problem) or was my take on this correct?

@Veterinari it was just a suggestion 🤷🏻‍♀️ OP seemed to think her child might be hanging on to this. In which case - a simple line like I suggested will knock in on the head. She knows her daughter. If the child hasn’t forgotten it already, then of course just leave it. I’ve had both types of child - the dweller, and the couldn’t give a fuck-er 🤣

Get a grip your massively over thinking this it will be for gorton about by tomorrow

I agree with the other posters, I think you need to relax a bit, storm in a teacup

Not normal, pretty irrational and you do need to think through why you had such an OTT reaction. You called him at work and asked did he call her stupid. He said no. You went back to it that night, and when he explained the whole situation, had an overreaction because the word was used, but not in the context your daughter decided, and so your husband was wrong- even though he wasn't. I don't blame him for being annoyed now in the slightest- massive over reaction

You don’t need to bring it up with your DD again. Don’t prolong this episode. And don’t blame your pregnancy, that’s extremely unreasonable. Own your actions and don’t get into the habit of lashing out then making excuses. That’s really low.

And please don't blame being pregnant- just accept that you, and only were wrong, trying to justify I'm sorry but......, is a shit apology, and borderline abusive in itself, as takes no responsibility that you, and only you, massively overreacted.

Don’t worry I got the message, and the pregnancy comment was a joke 😉 (tough crowd tonight, aye 😂) I have apologised for overreacting and order has been restored!

Always love it when an OP is big enough to admit they’re wrong. But OP, people don’t read past the first post so you’re still going to have people piling on. I’d bail out at this point if Iwere you!