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If a relative was moving away would you break covid rules to see them before they go.

35 replies

Roob23 · 05/03/2021 17:06

Hi all, I would like to say I’m not really planning to break the rules. I would just like to know what others think of this situation. I’ve followed the rules pretty religiously.

Dh’s brother is moving away in the next week or two for a job (before the date we can meet In groups of 6 outside). He is moving quite far away and he won’t be in the position to come back and visit regularly so it could be Christmas or beyond by the time we see him again, could be before. He isn’t sure. He doesn’t have a family or anything, it’s just his brother moving away! Dc dote on their uncle.

Would you go and see him before he goes. I don’t mean me as such but dh and maybe dc, I could stay home. He lives pretty close by so no travelling involved. . It just feels awful we won’t be able to see him and wish him luck. Haven’t seen him in weeks because of covid but now can’t see him before he goes!

Aibu to think a very quick visit all outside whilst the kids run around would be okay? If fully social distancing?

I’ll probably get slammed, I’ll take it. I don’t really want to break the rules but dh is feeling glum about his brother moving away. He’s so worried about him going away. He’s quite a lot younger than dh too.

Advice? Wwyd?

OP posts:
Easterbunnygettingready · 05/03/2021 17:08

Surely in a one person household he can bubble up with you and visit?

Roob23 · 05/03/2021 17:12

@Easterbunnygettingready

Surely in a one person household he can bubble up with you and visit?
He’s living with their mum at the minute! Sorry should have clarified 😀
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Angeldust747 · 05/03/2021 17:13

I would

TitusPullo · 05/03/2021 17:14

I would as well

Easterbunnygettingready · 05/03/2021 17:15

I would meet him.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 05/03/2021 17:15

If it’s just an outdoor, socially distanced chat/farewell then absolutely 100% I would, no question!

notacooldad · 05/03/2021 17:17

I would and I have been strict with the rules so far!

BeakyWinder · 05/03/2021 17:17

Yes, without a second thought.

TheNinny · 05/03/2021 17:17

Id do it

Nowfeeltheneedtopost · 05/03/2021 17:17

Surely your DH can go for a walk with his brother even now without breaking any rules?

Scarby9 · 05/03/2021 17:18

If you want to keep within the rules you can always go to a local park and drop DH off for a farewell walk with his brother.
You and kids have a separate walk / play time then wave and shout goodbye to him when you arrange to head back to the car.

guiltynetter · 05/03/2021 17:21

I would accidentally go for a walk at the same time as him in a nearby park :)

Kitkat151 · 05/03/2021 17:23

I wouldn’t think twice about it....just do it

Roob23 · 05/03/2021 17:25

Thanks guys . I actually totally forgot that 2 adults can meet outside for a socially distanced walk so fab idea. The kids would like to see him so maybe I will get dh to just take them over briefly to the front garden for a brief visit. We aren’t planning to to go in anybody’s house or break social distancing. I’m an anxious wreck about the virus and I wouldn’t be happy about that myself! Just feel torn! But I guess outside will be okay! 🌸

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Bubbinsmakesthree · 05/03/2021 17:27

I’ve been pretty cautious (not set foot in a shop since before Christmas, took DC out of nursery etc) but we’ve done some things like making a banner for DC’s friends birthday and stood in the front garden and sang happy birthday.

In this situation I would definitely do something similar. Get DC to make a big banner and stand and wave.

FASDE1517 · 05/03/2021 17:37

I would drop your husband to BILs with the kids- they can have a chat with him on the driveway then you can take kids home / kill time at the park whilst DH and BIL can go for a walk. We did the same for FILs big birthday recently.

Justcallmebebes · 05/03/2021 18:09

Of course

480Widdio · 05/03/2021 18:10

I would.Where I live nobody is complying anyway.

Roob23 · 05/03/2021 19:51

Thanks everyone 🌸

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rawalpindithelabrador · 05/03/2021 19:51

Yes!

Whatalottachocca · 05/03/2021 19:54

I’d definitely would.

Embroideredstars · 05/03/2021 20:03

I would definitely x

TheCanyon · 05/03/2021 20:09

I wouldn't even think twice about this if it was my db, And i certainly wouldn't be doing a socially distanced walk either. I think if the last year's taught us anything it's that we NEVER know when we'll see or touch someone we love again. I can't wait to give my wee bro a hug

Roob23 · 05/03/2021 21:13

@TheCanyon

I wouldn't even think twice about this if it was my db, And i certainly wouldn't be doing a socially distanced walk either. I think if the last year's taught us anything it's that we NEVER know when we'll see or touch someone we love again. I can't wait to give my wee bro a hug
It’s so hard isn’t it, I do agree. I’ve lost family and friends in the last year due to non covid related issues. I feel awful as I wasn’t able to see them before or even say goodbye. We need to be vigilant of covid of course but at the same time we never know what lies ahead covid or not!
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Shopaholic100 · 05/03/2021 21:41

Can you bubble with him if he’s a single person? If he’s not bubbling with anyone else.