dh inviting brother over

[flawpatrol]

So, I am heavily pregnant due in a few weeks, I have diabetes and also a underlying heart condition. I've been taking the rules quite seriously and so has DH.

He hasn't properly seen his brother in over a year, despite they could see each other outside for a walk etc. and his brother invited himself over this weekend to see our new house, Dh expects me to be fine, but even BIL himself has admitted, he has seen every "tom, dick and harry" and considering DH line of work, it's hardly an extra risk.

am I being unreasonable to be really upset? BIL also lives in a household where all the children are currently on antibiotics for strep throat.

Do I just grit my teeth and go along with it, and let them sit near the back door on the kitchen table and stay upstairs?
Or should I put my foot down?

Personally I would put my foot down. He shouldn’t be visiting; never mind your condition!

I would not be happy with this especially with your personal medical history so I think I would probably get a bit shouty if a quiet word didn't solve it.

He feels awkward telling his brother not to come round.
I told him "Yes, more awkward than potentially your wife in hospital battling Covid while you look after our toddler alone, with no pay"

My in-laws always dismiss my health and this is just another example.

Definitely put your foot down.

How about he grows a spine and says to DB 'lets meet up for a walk & chat outdoors instead'. Your health is worth more than his awkwardness

Walk outside yes
Inside no

Well, he can't currently as we're still in lockdown! Are you in the uk?

@IamTotoro

Well, he can't currently as we're still in lockdown! Are you in the uk?

yep in the UK. I've said this, we haven't made an exception for anyone but I can't believe he's actually invited himself round. I would want to report just to teach my husband a lesson, but the fine will come out of my pocket, and how do I report without them knowing lol!

Say no. You’re right, he’d rather upset you than his brother. That’s bullshit.

this is so dangerous. Not just the covid risk but the strep threat too. Your DH is a fool and I would be taking control of my own health and telling his brother no myself.

Not saying this to scare you op...but please tell them this statistic and say no
www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/pregnant-women-with-covid-19-are-less-likely-to-have-symptoms-and-may-more-likely-need-intensive-care/
And

inews.co.uk/news/health/more-pregnant-women-treated-covid-19-intensive-care-third-wave-830751

Put your foot down with your husband and tell your BIL yourself that he can’t come. How stupid is he? Both of them actually. If he still comes go up to your room and at meal times order yourself something nice and ignore them.